I have had the same boyfriend for 3 years now and he is the most disrespectful piece of shit ever he calls me a whore and a ***** all the time and even hits me he fights with me about everything i cant even take naps without him yelling at me ..i got into a car accident the other day and was injured every badly and he told me i deserved it .i cant even tell you why im still with him its like i cant leave him bc i have no one else i have lost almost all of my friends bc of him …ive been feeling soo depressed for a while im not doing good in school and i never talk to my dad i have no one
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You can talk to me. im not going anywhere.
Because you have no other one to “have” (boyfriend) is not a good enough reason to stay with someone who treats you so badly. I know its hard to see that when you are already in the relationship for years – but deep down you know its not worth it. For someone to say even a complete stranger, let alone lover, deserves a car accident is beyond my comprehension…
Ive talked to people in relationships like this before. its like a vice, they drive all your friends away, make you depend on them and then they put you down. then you have nowhere to go and onone to talk to.
But you have to get out. a relationship like that is only bad.
Just wait for a day when hes not home for a while and gather yourstuff and leave.
Its easier said then done
Most things are easier said than done. Doesn’t change the fact you have to work up the nerve to do it.
I’ll gladly talk to you until that time comes. Sometimes all we need is a little.. encouragement and push to do what is needed of us.
I feel for you-I just separated from my husband 8 months ago, though he never hit me, he did punch holes in the wall, doors broken up and called me f ***** a lot. That was too much for me. He had no potential, even less than me, and maybe I drove him to it but NOBODY deserve that.
I know its HARD to break from someone in a longterm relationship-going through this now, we still talk everyday, he assumes that we will reconcile, but I don’t love him anymore. He’s an essentially kind person, but we have had a lot of bad luck in the last 6 years and the economic crisis just tore apart an already notverystrong union. I wanted more.
I still lead him on, because bad and here is the key, horrible, sad, insane as it seems dysfunctional relationships are safe, we know them, the unknown is scary.
You are not married or tied down. I urge you to leave this SOB who has been chipping at you and stealing what little reserves you have. Don’t sleep with him. Don’t be supportive. If you are afraid go to the police, or get counseling. You are locked in a cycle and the only way is to just leave as I did.
God bless, love.
im afraid i dont know enough about your situtation to offer any reasonable advice.
One more thing Fantasy-it is HARDEST during contemplation stage, I know this because I dithered a year, and I cried. It was like cutting off a leg when I moved out and i f=hate where I am now, I left a nice new condo, to a small, spider-infested room at my parents home. I just lost my job, and all I have is my little dog. BUT I don’t think I can go back to him, if you can survive the tearing asunder you will be OK, and you will never settle again. No you won’t. Take small steps. Pack things and start moving, make little goals so you are not overwhelmed. As I said, if you are still sleeping with him, I urge you to stop.
Good luck.
Well i actually dont even live with him so it shouldnt even be hard for me to leave him but it is ..its bc if we broke up i would worry all the time what hes doing
Worry about yourself some love
Oh Jesus this is me!
I worry bc my spouse is not strong, he really is pathetic and I still love him in a dog way, not like a lover not like I should, I could not bear to sleep w/ him and he just took it, he just let me leave too…he’s even worse than I am, and because I worry he’ll kill himself if I divorce him (yes he has threatened it, aren’t we a pair?), I can’t pull up stakes.
You are not married. You will get over him, I suspect you are young too…maybe I am wrong but youth is well, everything.
sounds like Mitsuko66 knows what shes talking about. No better advice than advice from someone who has been there.
Tru sat@Unique…
If I can do it she can.
It’s hard though.
Baby steps.
Sounds like you need a B.U.F.
B.U.F?
Start palnning how you will leave, save up money he doesn’t know about.
Call the police if he hits you.
Call the police if he threatens you.
File a Restraining order.
Cet in touch with old friends that he doesn’t know about, better yet if they live in another town.
You are a classic story of women that take this physical and emotional abuse. You have to start taking some actions to protect yourself.
Hey just a idea, place a video camera in the room and record some of the abuse, it will go along way in a courtroom.