Okay so the thing is that my best friend is upset because the person she’s in a relationship with screwed her over and I see how badly upset she is. So the next day I text her and I get no response so I keep texting and calling because I was worried and I care a lot. So later in the day the person my friends dating texts me saying to stop flipping shit and that its not my job to care and blah blah blah. And that really hurt. They have no right to tell me who I can or can’t care about. Like I cried for a while. And now my best friend is giving ME the cold shoulder and ignoring me. When I haven’t done anything at all. That is another reason why I think it would be best if I died. I don’t think they would care and they’re both supposed to be my friends. They’ve done some pretty bad things to me and used me and I still care a lot about both of them. I don’t know what to do. I feel like crying all day and I can’t sleep. I slept for probably 4 or 5 hours total. I can’t eat its hard to swallow and I feel if I do eat it will all come back up. This isn’t fair to me. I can’t even wrap my mind around the reason why its me getting punished for caring. I guess this just shows that its worthless to care and get close to people, because all they do is end up hurting you more.
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Toughen up! You’re allowing yourself to be sick over people that aren’t being true to you.
When you’re true and real with you, you don’t allow this kind of thing to go on. Your choice. Stop analyzing and explaining the situation and make a choice that holds your best interests, best feelings and best overall well being in mind. Do you have the courage to do that for yourself? Would you ride a bike with a flat tire….takes a lot of work right? Well, you’re riding a bike with a flat tire.
Relationships should be smooth, and simple. Good luck!
If I had written that article above, and the comment after it was “toughen up”, I would punch you in the face. Why the hell are you here anyway?
David
Lol, you’d be better to punch yourself in the face so as to wake up. If you don’t see the wisdom in the comment that’s your issue…the comment was directed at the poster, not you! So why are you on this post, commenting on something not written for you!
SS
@ David, you focused on one sentence without considering the vibe or the intent of the rest of the reply…mind your comments when not directed at you!…you seemed to like the post written about Childhood belief. One sentence gets your goat…you need to toughen up too…lol. If you did you might come up with a more constructive intelligent reply.
It hurts when people you care about treat you that way. I myself have been dealing with a friend that is pushing me away and giving me the cold shoulder frequently. What I try to remind myself is that there are so many people out there in the world. So many opportunities to connect with people. Perhaps we’ve just been temporarily unlucky to run into people who treat us poorly. But look forward. It’s hard to see now, but go out there and try and make new friends. It’s been hard for me to make new friends. But I try not to give up and remind myself that I am okay the way I am and there will be people out there that I can connect with and who will appreciate my friendship. They are out there. Count the positives, not the negatives. Good luck.