Do I really love?

Bella, you’re wanting to cultivate unconditional love and appreciation for yourself. How do you do this? You make a decision that, that is what you want. Start with the statement. ‘Nothing is more important than, that I feel good’. 2nd is I always love and appreciate myself unconditionally. Even if you don’t quite believe it…focus on these two statements.

It’s my sense you were not well looked after as a youngster, so you’ve found a way to create a fantasy of love coming from outside of you so as to make you feel worthy and loved. So it’s not grounded in your being, you’re a bit up in the clouds and we’ve all been there so it’s all good. I didn’t receive the unconditional loving support I needed as a child…I rationalized it, and said to myself ‘oh, ya I had a good childhood’ …not quite the case when life knocks you about a bit. So, it’s important to understand than real love comes from within you, for you. Everyone’s looking for someone to love them forgetting that the only person who can truly love you is YOU. People come and go , and if we already have fear of abandonment issues going on which is the sense I get from you, then we may get ourselves into vulnerable situations attracting guys/girls who will leave/dump us cause there’s a deep rooted belief that we’re not worthy cause our parents didn’t provide the absolute loving conditions necessary for a child to grow up in and feel safe, secure, and know they’re loved. Look and go within yourself and suss these things out. See what kind of relationship you had with your folks..if it was less than stellar…that’s okay, the facts are friendly, it’s just information now to inform you on where you’re at. You’re emotions you feel will indicate what feels right and what feels off and will guide you along when you pay attention to them. You’re precious, so know this and make decisions that allow you to feel good about you while you’re doing whatever. Good luck!