Is it weird….

I think that Good Girl has asked an important question. If you’re not sure why you want a child (and remember they don’t stay babies for long) then it’s probable that it’s the natural procreation instinct – the urge to produce children regardless of whether it’s in your best interest – or theirs.

Having a child now may not ‘ruin’ your life – but it will change it. I guarantee it. And not necessarily in the ways that you expect. There’s more to being a parent than cleaning icky bottoms, sleepless nights and constant worry (although that’s a major part of it). You think you’d have someone there for you to love and who will you love you back. But will they always be there for you? Look around yourself. How many kids your age are there loving their mothers? And then when they become an adult – they leave. They must. To live their own lives.

I remember reading somewhere that having a child is like having your heart walking around outside your body. I think that may well have a point. Do you want to put your heart out there where it can be hurt, where you can’t keep it safe, where you’re not even in control of what it does?

I think there’s a reason why society in general prefers women to be older before they have children – partly biological (whilst your body is physically capable of producing a child, it’s still developing and you’re likely to cause yourself damage in having one) and partly emotional – it’s hard enough dealing with your own volatile emotions at your age without adding the turbulent emotions that come with pregnancy and the tiredness as well.

btw-as an added item, having a baby drains the nutrition out of the mothers body (I read somewhere that it ‘ages’ you by about 5 years per child). It is therefore best if the mother has had a good diet for at least 6 months to a year before hand in order to build up their stores. Perhaps you should try eating properly for a year before thinking about it?

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.