Do you believe in fate? If yes, then I have another question for you. If someone commits suicide, was it fate? Meaning, even if you or someone else attempted to stop them it would have happened anyway because it is their fate? I’m not saying fate should be blamed, I’m just beginning to believe that some things in life are inevitable no matter how much we humans try to change it.
Today I read an article in Psychology Today. In it a successful author was interviewed and he said that  most success in life is governed by chance. Basically someone could work just as hard and well as you and end up not getting your success because, well, “luck” wasn’t any where near them, it was near you and now you are successful and rich. When the author said “chance”, I automatically thought “fate”, thus leading to the question I posted above because maybe we are fated to live the unhappy lives we are living. Just thinking that that may be true makes me feel absolutely horrible.
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“Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity”
-Seneca
It plays a factor but isn’t the driving or sustaining force. Sometimes I want to feel horrible. The decision is yours.
I don’t believe mental illness is fate..it can happen to anyone by some are more disposed to it than others so it might be more to do with hereditary factors than fate.I don’t think our lives are predetermined but for the choices we male will determine our paths.it freaks me to to think I’m trapped in a bipolar life cycle…I’m trying very hard to get out of it (not literally of course)but through medication not much success yet but my shrink hasn’t given up on me yet(I wish he would)
google search:
– destiny vs free will
– picking our parents and our life circumstances
those two articles gave me sthg to ponder on
He lost me at accepting abuse
These are difficult topics, it’s hard to say is there such thing as “fate”.
My depression started somewhere in highschool, bullying and lonliness might had something to do with it. But in the end I can’t blame anyone else for my depression than myself.
If I had been stronger, if I had asked for help.. My life could have gone so much differently.. Now it’s too late, I have wasted too much time and my problems have just got ten times worse. I don’t really see fate there… Just really bad decisions..
haha I read this a couple of months ago, I was really into a more ‘spiritual’ approach to life back then
to my understanding the soul picked the abusive family because after having gone through the pros and cons of each situation, other parameters and life lessons taken into account, its assessment was that it was more likely to learn what it had decided to learn by picking the family where there was some abuse going on
I do not believe in fate or destiny.
I do believe life is random and humans have limited choices.
What your author said was correct.
Some people can work hard and never get an opportunity to go very far.
Given the circumstances of many nations I’ll wager that probably a higher percentasge of people have this issue.
And some people end up with great opportunities and their effort causes them to skyrocket.
Of course this also depends on what the individual sees as success.
Some people see just having a job as success, others see marriage and family, and yet other prefer riches or a life of leisure.
I used to consider spiritual aspects until after studying them and applying an objective and rational eye, they seemed liked rationalizations for humans to make stupid and ignorant decisions.