My friend and I are drifting so bad. Friday she was upset over not getting a job she was feeling worthless and like a failure and was talking suicidal. I, being her best friend, tried my hardest to console her and comfort her, as i know the feelings all too well. Her response to my advice “I’m taking advice on why not to kill myself from a girl who has tried to kill herself, really, you think you can help me.” That hurt me so bad, as she said that i tried to laugh it off because she later told me it was a joke. But what kind of friend would say that to another… No friend at all I would say… She’s changed, she’s not the person I used to know and it’s unbearable. It sad when the person who made me want to get help for my issues in the first place is now the reason why i want to kill myself that much more….
I’m alone now, i don’t have anyone i trust..
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Your friend was vulnerable and upset and made a mistake … give her a pass and forgive her – good friendships are had to find and require maintenance and flexibility
when she calms down and is more “herself” kindly let her know know that her statement was hurtful.
relationship dawg
You have all of us here at the Suicide Project
It’s natural for her to be pushing you away when she hurts.
Stick to it!
Peace
I tried talking to her about how it upset me… she told me this : “Obviously you need to get over a lot of stuff before you can actually have friends, you’re too emotional and get too upset. Get out of my life, I can’t deal with you anymore”
…. I’ll get out of her life alright… she was the only thing keeping me from suicide. What’s left now?
wow i think your friend has her own problems to deal with and taking it out on you that is harsh, whats left now? do what im doing: searchin for better friends..
I wrote a post a whle back called the Black Velvet Curtain, it describes your friend and her growing isolation.
Peace