So, my wife fucked another dude about 2 years ago and then left me for the guy I caught her with. Â I then got fucked over by the feminist judge after the Mrs. pleaded the BS “emotional abandonment routine” in court even though we had what I thought was a great relationship and now I pay her about 90% of my paycheck. Â On top of that she got the house, the kids, blah blah blah. Â Her and her family then got her sister to come out and said I had slept with her when I had not and she was 15 at the time so then I got charged with statutory rape. Â Having lost all of my money to the ex-Mrs, I had to use a state appointed attorney and even though the evidence was clearly in my favor, the lawyer wanted nothing to do with it and sort of sabotaged the case forcing me to settle and plead out. Â The judge let me off with 270 hours community service, counseling, probation, and of course I have to notify the neighborhood I was a sex offender. Â This led to me losing my job and after 2 months, I am left with $8 in the bank and can’t pay the chid support or alimony to keep the ***** happy. Â I do not want to be a slave of the system or the witch. Â I love my two kids, but they hate me after the stories my wife has told them and I haven’t seen them in a year. Â My family doesn’t talk to me anymore because of her and she got the friends in the divorce. Â To top it off, today I totaled my car and tore every ligament in my left knee and broke my shoulder and I can’t afford to have surgery on either. Â So I lost my home as well because I had been living out of my car. Â Since I missed the alimony payment and child support payment, she has already called the police and apparently there is a warrant out for my arrest. Â Â Now I am sitting at a chair in the public library debating how I want to go. Â Advice to all you young kids out there, do not get married or have kids ever. Â I had a great life before all of this happened, but now I am an alcoholic who is homeless all because of this marriage that I thought was working out. Â Guess the joke is on me.
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That’s fucked up. It can’t get any worse in your situation though man. Sounds like you had a nice fill of bullshit tho. Doesn’t matter in the final analysis of life though. When the going gets tough the tough get going. Have strength for yourself, your kids will come around too. With growing age they will have they’re own opinions and want their own relationships, they’ll want to talk to you. Don’t let a ***** like that break you down good.
go with style man
rambo style
I’m way s lost for words.
I can’t fully comprehend your pain wand the agony you must be going through right now.
I just wish you find the piece that you so desperately seeking after.
Travel well
Sometimes it just does not pay to put trust in certain people.
One thinks one is doing the ‘right thing’ but it ends up being a catastrophic mess.
And further proof that the legal system in terms of marriage and child support is in favor of the wife and mother rather than true justice.
“Advice to all you young kids out there, do not get married or have kids ever.”
acknowledged
While I think you might be exaggerating about how much of your paycheck goes to her for support (in most US states I believe the cap is at most 65% or in that general ballpark – that’s child support law – I don’t know how or if alimony applies) … I know for FACT that the burdens imposed are horrific and biased towards women. In order for a man to win in court – a woman almost has to beat the children IN the courtroom when the judge is actually watching … otherwise it doesn’t matter what a guy says – it’s automatically considered a lie or an excuse to “get out of their responsibility”.
rules beliefs and laws are set to favor women as they were in the 50’s and 60’s when back then women were “homemakers” – that WAS their job … the law and mindset has not kept pace with the woman’s advancement in society.
Bottom line is – this horror story is relatively accurate for many good men. That’s not to say all men are angels – many of these laws and rules would not be necessary if men in the past were predominantly behaving honorably and accepted their responsibility. As Current law stands – there are NOT too many beneficial reasons to actually get married – yes you gain certain rights and tax benefits etc … but it’s basically gambling at minimum HALF of everything you will ever own that THIS woman will not be vindictive and vengeful if you should split up – there’s a 50%-50% chance the marriage will end … and 50% or those women that split up will destroy you. I know this first hand.
That said … somehow, within me I STILL have a romantic idea of “happily ever after” … but realistically I don’t think it’s possible in a “disposable” society that would sooner throw away things instead of fixing them.
x dawg
As for what the children believe – you said there was “evidence … it many not have been taken seriously in court … but make sure to keep it safe and untarnished so when your kids are old enough they can review it and judge for themselves … when dealing with the children when they are around and can see or hear you – make SURE you NEVER do anything that can be construed to support the lies their mother has fed them … one of my kids came to me, mad as hell as an adult telling me what filth I was for “never paying support” as her mother had told her … after my kid finished her rant without me getting angry or aggressive in any way … I calmly showed her 18 years of court records/receipts with her and her moms name on them that show clockwork-like payments
I calmly said simply – I will ALWAYS tell you the absolute truth good or bad … but if your mom lied to you about something fundamental like child support, what else has she lied about?
True – I lost a lot of quality time as she grew up – but that doesn’t mean the relationship is completely lost and cannot be repaired going forward … as much as I want to tell my kid what an evil lying whore her mom is … I always “defend” her mom and try to make sure my kid doesn’t do or say something that will damage the mother/kid relationship … not that mother deserves it … but it reinforces the fact that I am not now and never was the “bad guy”
papa dawg
After having to pay her legal fees plus still being obligated to pay the mortgage and stuff, it came out pretty close to 80% of the pay check. It is almost like I am Allen Harper from Two & a Half Men as far as getting raped by the system. I’m not even angry about it. I’m just apathetic. I truly don’t care what happens at this point. When I was employed, I earned 6k a month. She got 4k from me through child support and alimony (about 65%) and another 800 (boosts it to about 79%) just for expenses and payments. Now that I’m unemployed for 8 months and the court wouldn’t adjust the payments, I am already out of money. $32,000 adds up fast my friends. I guess the sad part is I don’t even know what I did wrong but not “please her” because I “worked too much”.
There was good evidence that I hadn’t, and I didn’t. Unfortunately it was one of those things that turned into a he-said, she-said blah blah blah and she said it had happened several times when the truth was it had never happened. Like I was going to drive 2 hours to my insufferable ex-inlaws home (who always hated me) to screw their illegitimate 15 year old daughter. As for the kids, maybe they’ll be able to see through it. I send them birthday cards and letters but that’s the only communication.
I’m sure there was – do whatever you can to maintain as close a relationship with the kids allowable without appearing selfish.
I know exactly what you mean about not being able to get the court to adjust – it’s unbelievable even in this economy that they think somehow you can just shit gold bars.
Your situation (minus the rape/infidelity allegation) is very similar to mine – which is part of the reason I’m “here” … they have suspended my driving privileges and eventually i will be jailed indefinitely and short of winning the lottery there ain’t a thing I can do about it.
Chances are you did nothing wrong other than trust her and marry her.
Question? are you ORDERED to maintain the house? if not … her house her payment … I’d give it to the bank.
See, I’m a lot like you – I don’t care about anything but my dogs … period. nothing else maters, and I have no motivation other than my dogs.
dogs dawg
I’m ordered to pay the mortgage. I filed for bankruptcy this morning though. I have no assets left but a suitcase with a few changes of clothes, my computer, and a toothbrush. I actually sort of screwed myself over. I was collecting unemployment but I take a pretty low paying part time job and as soon as I payed income tax, my unemployment stopped which I was surprised about because 5 years ago you were payed the unemployment + the earning of an entry-level position (thanks a lot Obama). So instead of the 2k a month unemployment, I was stuck with making $250 a week and now that business is gone so I literally get bread crumbs. I think I should actually write a sitcom about this. “If it can go wrong, it will.” I’ve thought about just throwing away my ID and debit cards and getting on board a tanker ship (an old college friend said he could help me out) and just getting off wherever it ends up. Apparently he could get me over to India where they aren’t super concerned about identification and crap and I’m a pretty level headed dude. I feel that I could make something of myself over there and possibly live comfortably.
Fortunately the life insurance has expired on me so if I do kick the bucket so to speak, she won’t be able to collect a dime.
It ain’t the president’s fault that you married a lying cheating whore … that’s squarely on you friend. I’e never known unEmp to pay out when you’re working anywhere ever.
If you can’t honestly find a decent job in your field then I feel for you … but if you stayed on unEmp and took a low wage job to try and get out of paying what you’re ordered (no matter how unfairly) then I have no sympathy … because that is exactly the type of behavior in trying to game the system to “pay that ***** back” that they made the laws to protect against … FYI if it weren’t for obama and stimulus there would have been no unEmp extensions past 52 weeks (usually 26 is max)
So clearly it would seem we disagree on politics – perhaps we can agree to leave politics out of the conversation? yes?
left dawg
I voted Obama. It was meant as more of a joke than anything else. Tone is hard to get across over the web. I needed a job. I was sick of sitting around and doing absolutely nothing. I couldn’t afford to do anything so i wanted to get a job that payed money under the table as a handyman and it was working out as I had a couple hundred bucks for myself plus the unemployment which basically all went to her. Then one client did the automated checks and the income tax caught it. I guess that makes me guilty of tax evasion but I still payed my dues. (just not the minuscule $80 a month in taxes they would have gotten off of my handy man job which is nothing compared to the other bills). In my head, it’s not about the money anymore. I want to actually have fun again and I can’t do that while I am a slave to her here. I have to go somewhere else. Offing myself is my third and final option because I’ve tried a lot of different things to find reasons to keep on keeping here. So my next step is to try and go elsewhere. If that doesn’t work then I guess it’s a simple bullet to the brain.
Sorry – I took it as a sarcastic sleight – I’m very anti teabagger, which makes me pro obama … not happy with everything he’s done but with congress holding everything hostage, he’s doing better than anyone could possibly expect under the circumstances – one of my goals is to remain “topside” at least til november so I can vote for O again … if mittens wins it will be my death sentence – since I won’t want to live in a world/country that waits for the uber rich to throw their scraps to the masses to fight over.
The bankruptcy should alieviate some of the financial pressures … and remember child support doesn’t last forever (and it IS your responsibility). i don’t know how old the kid(s) are but it only lasts so long … then if you have kept clawing and scratching you can watch her wold crumble without having you are support anymore. there is also the possibility your kids will need you more than ever to help sort out fact from fantasy and to reeducate them.
dawg
Yeah I have 10 years of child support left (if I am lucky and they don’t go to expensive colleges without scholarships). However, I can barely afford to eat anymore. Unfortunately I just don’t have the money in the bank to pay the $4,800-$5,000 a month in child support/alimony/house payments. All I have now is $8 in the bank. I swiped my card and looked and literally laughed out loud. I have no real means of income and there is a warrant out for my arrest simply because I simply don’t have the money to pay child support. I would willfully honor the court order if it were physically possible, but quite frankly it is not. This is the first place I’ve actually complained about my shitty life so I might come across as extremely bitter and that is because internally I am. I hate the people who turned their backs on me because of the wretch I was married to. I didn’t do anything to deserve this punishment but work to support my family. I did work a lot and maybe I could have taken more days off to be with the family, but with the way she’s screwed me over I don’t think she ever really cared that much. I mean, if I die, she can’t really get anything else out of me but $8. Especially since I don’t have life insurance anymore. I do have the laptop but I could burn it before I pull the trigger. At this point, she has all the money I had saved up and earned. I’m an oil well that has gone dry, and unless I leave the country, I will be in jail for most likely 3 months for failure to pay child support and alimony. I don’t know how they will get me to pay for it from jail though. At least it will be minimum security prison though which from what I understand is almost like joining the marines.
It will be one of 4 ways to go though. Quick bullet to the head, self-immolation in front of the house that I am not allowed near that I am required to pay for (stuffing every last dollar bill I have at that time in my pockets), self-immolation in front of the judge’s house, or self-immolation in front of the court house. It would easily be number 2 if it meant the kids weren’t there to see it.
If I do the bullet to the brain, if I call 911 and do it right as I hear sirens, and they see I have an organ donation card, do you think they will be able to harvest my organs for people that actually want to be alive? I do not want the suicide to merely end my life, but also give life to others who haven’t possibly had the chance to not fuck theirs up like I have.