I haven’t really seen anyone on here encouraging anyone to kill themself, granted I have not been on here long. I think its a touchy situation. And being that we all are kind of in the same boat, we have a hard time preaching to the choir.
@fearsvsdreams: You wouldn’t be able to cite some examples at all? I’ve only been here for a few weeks, yet I haven’t seen any commenters actively encouraging anyone to take their own lives. I’ve seen quite a few comments that are neutral, as well as many that actively discourage going through with the act. What you need to bear in mind is when someone gets to a stage where they end up here, it is likely they have made up their own minds anyway.
The worst posts are the ones that are too discouraging; these ones often have excessive usage of words such as ‘God’ and ‘selfish’.
Where was somebody encouraging somebody? I was actually talked out of commiting suicide on here last night. I had my notes written and the rope was hanging in my garage already. A girl like for real literally saved my life. People on here are suicidal obvs but I think it’s almost more like a kinda support group
@juxtaposed: I wonder if some of the neutral posts where there is no active discouragement of suicide is being interpreted as some sort of tacit encouragement? I know I tend to go neutral in some posts, purely out of respect for the original poster. The last thing a suicidal person needs is to be preached to, but they do need someone that will listen and acknowledge them.
I agree with you Kallie. I too have not seen any active encouragement. This is definitely not a place to come for support in the actual act. I find it helpful that others have experienced similar feelings, so when they try to pull you back from the edge, it kind of really means something?
I came here suicidal but quickly found myself wanting to point out to others all the reasons not to do it. And as a direct result of that, I no longer felt so suicidal myself. I think probably quite a lot of people on here are the same…
exactly … I think talking to someone on the edge can be just enough to encourage them to step away from the cliff of their own volition.
This reminds me of a story about a man who lived across the road from a notorious suicide spot in my country. Whenever he saw someone looking to throw themselves off this particular cliff, he’d ask them if they were OK and then offer a cup of tea. Apparently he may have saved hundreds of lives over the 30 years or so he lived there. He passed away earlier this year of old age (he was doing this right up until the end).
That’s an awesome story.
Not many people would go out of their way, to listen to anothers story.
Everybody needs somebody to confide in every once in awhile.
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I haven’t really seen anyone on here encouraging anyone to kill themself, granted I have not been on here long. I think its a touchy situation. And being that we all are kind of in the same boat, we have a hard time preaching to the choir.
Old boat. Me. You.? And i’m not a pedo.
I don’t want to kill myself, nor do I want anyone else to.
At the same time, I’d like to kill myself, but I don’t want anyone else to.
It’s a strange paradox.
So no, I try not to encourage anyone to kill themselves.
Can’t speak for anyone else, though.
@fearsvsdreams: You wouldn’t be able to cite some examples at all? I’ve only been here for a few weeks, yet I haven’t seen any commenters actively encouraging anyone to take their own lives. I’ve seen quite a few comments that are neutral, as well as many that actively discourage going through with the act. What you need to bear in mind is when someone gets to a stage where they end up here, it is likely they have made up their own minds anyway.
The worst posts are the ones that are too discouraging; these ones often have excessive usage of words such as ‘God’ and ‘selfish’.
Where was somebody encouraging somebody? I was actually talked out of commiting suicide on here last night. I had my notes written and the rope was hanging in my garage already. A girl like for real literally saved my life. People on here are suicidal obvs but I think it’s almost more like a kinda support group
Are you thinking outside the box?
Like, maybe through words of encouragement, subliminal suicide thoughts are being transmitted?
@juxtaposed: I wonder if some of the neutral posts where there is no active discouragement of suicide is being interpreted as some sort of tacit encouragement? I know I tend to go neutral in some posts, purely out of respect for the original poster. The last thing a suicidal person needs is to be preached to, but they do need someone that will listen and acknowledge them.
I agree with you Kallie. I too have not seen any active encouragement. This is definitely not a place to come for support in the actual act. I find it helpful that others have experienced similar feelings, so when they try to pull you back from the edge, it kind of really means something?
I came here suicidal but quickly found myself wanting to point out to others all the reasons not to do it. And as a direct result of that, I no longer felt so suicidal myself. I think probably quite a lot of people on here are the same…
Long live SP! Zx
sansespérer…I agree.
I’m not going to drag somebody off of the cliff.
At the same time, I’m not going to push them off.
exactly … I think talking to someone on the edge can be just enough to encourage them to step away from the cliff of their own volition.
This reminds me of a story about a man who lived across the road from a notorious suicide spot in my country. Whenever he saw someone looking to throw themselves off this particular cliff, he’d ask them if they were OK and then offer a cup of tea. Apparently he may have saved hundreds of lives over the 30 years or so he lived there. He passed away earlier this year of old age (he was doing this right up until the end).
Further to my above post, this particular man was so well known, he has his own Wikipedia entry: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Don_Ritchie
That’s an awesome story.
Not many people would go out of their way, to listen to anothers story.
Everybody needs somebody to confide in every once in awhile.