I can’t stand my own thoughts right now. I know that I want to move on and be able to live without her, but I can’t bring myself to believe that I will ever want another person. Every time I try to convince myself that I can have a life with somebody else she always comes back to my mind. I’ve never had these difficulties with anyone. I’ve never had any difficulty letting another girl go when the time came. This one just was so perfect. I mean, she had her flaws but I loved every one just the same. She exceeded everything I could have dreamed of. I want so bad to believe that I will be able to love somebody else the same and raise a family but I just can’t do it.
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Hi Trent. Your situation is so sad. I just think how i would feel if things didn’t work out with my partner, who is the closest thing to being perfect for me that I’ve ever found.
Silentblue, another user here, has written extensively about his ex-love, and his difficulties with ‘letting go’. He also felt that he can never love again. You may benefit from reading some of his posts.
When it comes to loving and losing, there will at least always be people who can relate. You needn’t feel that you are the only one going through this heartache, though that may or may not be particularly helpful.
I’m not going to tell you will get over her, time will heal, or ‘there’s plenty more fish in the sea’. Those responses usually fail to comfort or help, because they don’t acknowledge the real pain you are going through.
I just hope you will manage to hang in there, and that your pain will lessen, or some healing will occur. I hope you will give it time Trent and wish you the best.
Zoe x
Trent, Man, I have been where you are now. I thought the girl I was seeing was perfect for me. I had my life all planned out with her, and spent so much time with her, that she became the part that completed me. But, after it all fell apart, I felt like you do now. It felt like a big chunk of my person was missing or had died. I literally felt my heart hurt like it was breaking. I gave up on life, or on ever finding someone like her. But Trent, the truth is that there are tons of people out there. Most not as good as your girl. But there are a few that are just as good, maybe one better for you, than she was.
So let yourself feel sad, and I know the pain is literally unbearable, but suffer it you must. It was not meant to be, for a good reason, since God is the one who brings people together. Trust me, he led me to the sweetest, kindest, most intelligent girl I have been with for 17 yrs. now. And I thank him for the pains I underwent, because if I had not been for what happened with the other girl, I would not have her today. You will see, someone better is just around the corner!
Thank you, nicebird. That really helps me a lot. I just hate how I feel and I hate myself so much cuz I know it was my fault she left. We were dating in by far the most stressful and painful year of my life. She stayed with me until the end and just as my life was turning around she decided it was too much.