This past summer my three sisters have repeatedly tricked me into seeing/being near my mother. Not wanting to make a scene I was as cordial as humanly possible. I decided to wait until summer was over to explain to my mother how I really felt.
Before this summer I had gone ten years without seeing her – for good reason.
She abused me. Not just a slap on the face, but literally beat me bloody. She would lock me outside for days with no food, give my siblings and I scoring hot baths, beat us until our skin was raw and tender to the touch, call us disgusting names (bloody ****, hairy *****, worthless no good whore). She would tell me how I wasn’t good enough and I should just kill myself. She would tell me how all men will ever want to do is “fuck me and leave me”. She explained how men would see me as a sexual object and use me – which was funny because I wasn’t even that pretty. Yes these are my mothers words and actions.
She sexually abused me.
Than had the audacity during my parents divorce to accuse my father and uncle of raping me. Tell me where that makes any sense. The rape kit test created further issues for my mental well-being.
This is only a fraction of what she did to me. It all started when I was six. Continued til I was twelve. And than stopped abruptly. Why? Because I finally had enough and I told her to fuck off and that I never wanted to see her again. For ten years I have been living life fine without her until this summer.
My sisters kept sabotaging me. So I finally told her what I had been saying for the last ten years.
Don’t speak to me unless your going to acknowledge what you did to me when I was a kid. That is all I am asking for.
But it has created a chain reaction among the siblings and I am the enemy.
Well see what happens.
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People don’t like the truth cause it hurts but it does set you free. Takes courage to be truthful with yourself without fear of shame & to own what happened & to address it in an empowering way in the face of all adversity. All the best.
Hey TwistedGirl90,
Can understand how difficult it is to face your abuser…and the build up(steam)before the confrontation. The anxiety and anger and bitterness…well I could go on…and usually do…sorry…it is overwhelming. And then after the confrontation…comes the depression. Am I getting close? Seems I have been doing that my whole life. So I can relate to that part.
I have also had to walk away from my family of origin many, many times. My older sister was one of my worst abusers…but unfortunately not the only one….so I can relate to some of your story on that level as well.
Would need to have more info…not details…to really start to understand how to best comment or offer advice. How old are you? Male/female or somewhere else on the spectrum? Oh crap…like a million things….but that would require a conversation. Something that I am up for….but I’ll wait for you to invite such intimacy.
Just know that there are a lot of souls here who can and will relate to you…and they want to help…but you have to meet them half way. Are you suicidal? Do you have suicidal ideations? You’ve said you are a cutter…any other forms of self-abuse?
Got lots of advice and resources to offer you…just don’t know which ones would be best until I understand your situation and mindset better. Maybe you just need to vent…and that is okay too…rant away. Let us know what you think you need most.
Sending lots of positive loving energy your way
Amakua
why on earth would they be so cruel as to trick you like that? thats just wrong man.
Stay away from her, it will only open old wounds, ………. unless your ready to or have forgiven her.
Forgiveness isn’t for the other person its for us the forgiver. Hatred and resentments are like an evil corrodding thread woven through the very fabric of our existence, resentments and hatred can be stripped down to its base emotion, which is fear.
Fear should be classed with stealing, it takes away all of our serenity and peace.
“Fear has its use but cowardice has non”
i guess we all have different views about this.