I feel like I’ve done something wrong. I mean, Owen is a great guy. He’s wonderful. But my thoughts still drift back to Trevor. And I feel like I’m not giving Owen the kind of love he deserves. I can’t just lie to him. But I don’t think I can break his heart, either. See, I wouldn’t have this problem with Trevor. At least, I don’t think I would. Â I really like Trevor, and God, I feel horrible for saying it, but I can’t help how I feel. Help?
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Who do you want to be with when your alone? Who do you want to call? Who do want to be with when your with Owen? Who do you want to be with when you are with Trevor? We are complex animals, we can like different people, at the same time, there is nothing wrong with you, the love triangle is a very common thing sadly.
You should make a decision sooner rather than later, the longer it goes on, the deeper the wounds.
Hope it works out for you 🙂
That’s the terrible thing. Every question you asked, my immediate thought was “Trevor”. It’s awful. He doesn’t like me, anyway. I thought he did, but he kind of flirts with everybody. Owen.. He’s so sweet, he likes me, and he is really cute, but I just… I don’t feel the way about him that I do with Trevor. Maybe it’s because I’m more used to Trevor, and I’ve liked him for a while. I’m just gonna give Owen a chance, see how it goes.
Congrads on a decision. Don’t look back, you have made your choice, stick to your guns TrumpetChick.
I hope it all goes well for you. 🙂
It sounds like Owen is the ‘nice guy’ and Trevor is the ‘bad boy.’ Logically, Owen would be the better choice, because he truly cares about you and he probably won’t leave you for some other girl. But, women are instinctively attracted to the ‘bad boys’ or more popular guys, so you’ll always be drawn to Trevor, even though you know he will probably break your heart. And what about Tennyson? Where does he fit in all of this?
I have an idea, but it’s a really weird one. If your ultimate preference is someone who flirts like Trevor but with you only, you may be able to achieve this by changing the way Owen views dating and romantic relationships. You’ll first want to find out how Trevor views these things. Then, you’ll want to find out if Owen is capable of, and comfortable with, genuinely changing the way he views dating and romantic relationships to be more like Trevor’s way of viewing them. I also know of several websites that might help. Oh, um, did all of that make sense? Please tell me if any of it didn’t, I know I wrote kind of a lot…
It doesn’t sound like Own is the flirting type. He sounds like a decent guy (like me) and sadly, decent guys are not sexually attractive to women. Girls like the popular, flirtatious guys and that’s just the way it is. Nice guys finish last and I’m living proof of that.
I disagree. Nice guys are the more attractive type of men.
I look at it like this: people just don’t typically associate kindness and compassion with “sexy”–this goes for both men and women–where “sexy”=what is stereotypically thought of as sexy in society.
Fortunately, however, what individual people find sexy is likely quite varied.