I am 29 years old and two and half years ago I got a surgical implant called VNS. Â The depression I had struggled with for 12 years, just left. Â Two weeks ago I found out that the man (my uncle) who molested me as a child from age 13 and under is going to the same community college I have been going to and is graduating on June 1st, the same day I was going to graduate. Â I will not be attending that graduation ceremony. Â He has been asked to sing at the commencement ceremony as well. Â These past two weeks I have struggled so hard to just NOT take that jump. Â Years ago I was using drugs, looked for help and was sent away, I jumped off a bridge then. Â I was seriously injured. Â I realize that my multiple suicide attempts throughout my life make me “high risk”. Â I don’t want to go to the hospital, I want to finish my last 3 classes required for my associates in science degree that I have worked my @$$ off for. Â So I realize this is just PTSD… Â Just… Â I know of three things I want to do “plan”-wise. Â I have done my research and I know that I must be thorough this time around. Â I just don’t know if I want to kill him first or just keep the lovin to myself. Â I don’t have a date. Â I won’t have a date. Â Until then I have a few things I need to do. Â I guess I will have to wake up to the sound of my own crying for a short while more. Â I have strong survival instincts, I want people to give me reasons not to, I want to feel like I am not a worthless piece of $h!t that nobody cares if they get molested and raped. Â This is a cry for help, this is my scream in the night. Â I hate myself, I am just another dirty victim. Â I can’t turn it off. Â I need help, but I don’t trust anyone. Â I am so sorry.
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Hiya! I’m sorry to hear that you are feeling the way you are! I can’t really know how you feel about your uncle but when my ex was raped I offered to hunt the guy down and kill him for her. It wasn’t an angry outburst. I knew how I would do it. Thankfully, she declined and took my advice to go to the police and let them deal with it properly. Anyway, when I stood opposite the guy outside the court I knew who he was but he didn’t know who I was. I knew that he was only still standing there breathing by the grace of the girl he’d raped. I still know that he only exists because she let him.
I can’t know for sure, but I suspect that if you empower yourself by studying Krav Maga or something you’ll feel more in control and less fear. I understand that physical contact in that way is a pretty scary idea but my suggestion is one to help you overcome your fears.
I hope it helps.