I have a great, great counselor. We’ve been through a lot together but things took a turn for the worse in my life about a year and a half ago and then I became physically injured on top of that. I had a list of phrases he helped come up with that used to help but now they no longer help. Like “I’m bigger than this” but I’m not, what I’m dealing with is bigger than me. I have fought and fought fought and almost made it, almost won but then I got smacked down and I can’t seem to beat my physical problems. I’m trying. I’ve decided to fight into September. Anyway, I feel bad for him. He probably feels we are not making progress (probably) and, on some level, I bet he wouldn’t mind if he didn’t have do our sessions. We haven’t found a good strategy that I can do for my new bigger problems.
I can’t really stop going cause I only have one true friend and that friend can only stomach “my stuff” about once a month, God Bless Him. It’s heavy stuff involving the sudden death of my only true family member in this country and my long term injury/damage and health problems. I’m very tired. Anyhow, anyone feel similarly about their counselor?
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I’m in a similar situation. I started therapy about a year ago, for general anxiety disorder and mild depression. I was doing really well until fall, when multiple physical issues started giving me serious issues. I’ve gradually over time become pretty inactive physical because of that, which is really depressing me and making the situation hard to take. My therapist tries to make the situation positive and help me get my mind positive, but it’s not working. I keep feeling worse mentally and physically. I’m fighting for the moment, but am rapidly running out of steam. I think my therapist is great, but there’s a limit to what he can accomplish.
I don’t really have anything to do with counsellors. To me, and this is just how I feel about them really, well I find that they can only do so much. And they don’t answeer my queestions. They just ask me to consder what the answers could be, what options I could come up with for my problems. Well, I agree, but I disagree with totally putting the whole thing from counsellor to client. For example, I want counselling to get answers. Not just so I can fish around for the answers I don’t have which I was trying to find through that counsellor. They just don’t understand that I don’t go to them to get them to make me consider the answers I don’t know. I go there because I don’t have answers.
So now I won’t seek counselling. If I don’t find answers, I get advice from friends and family. Sometimes strangers. Way better than a therapist for me! Everyone feels differently about counselling, but this is how I am.