My name’s Caitlin. I’m nearly 14 and you’re probably going to have a rant at me for saying this and only being 13 but it’s how I feel and I need to tell someone.
My life won’t be as bad as anyone else. To be honest, my life isn’t even that bad – unless you look closer. I get bullied at school, online, and even sometimes on the street. It started when I was 10. I started cutting. I don’t know why I just did. It went on for a year then it stopped. I started to be happy again. It was great!
When I started High School it was okay I got a few remarks but I just shook them off because I had my friends and I thought that was all that mattered.
After a few months the bullying started again. And it got worst. This time it wasn’t just a few people – this time there was a whole gang of them. I felt so alone.
I started to self-harm again and all I could think about was dying. I wanted to die.
I remember waking up in the morning and crying because I had woken up. The last thing I’d do at night was hope that I’d just die.
When I self-harm I used to be careful. Just minor scrathes. But now it’s anywhere and I don’t care.
I get bullied just because I’m not that pretty, for the clothes I wear and because my singing isn’t that good.
I know it will get better but right now I don’t think I care take much more.
Please help.
I will appreciate any advice.
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Hey, I’m 14 and I just finished my freshman yeah of highschool. I will tell you that yes, its very difficult. And I’m not going to tell you that 13/14 is to young. Its a difficult time in a teenagers life. I cut. I cry. Abs I think if suicide. Things will very likely look up for you 🙂 and hey, don’t let anyone tell you you’re ugly. Everyone us beautiful inside and out. Including you.
I don’t care if I can’t sing. This is my favorite song, and I WILL sing.
I felt the same way. I was bullied throughout junior high, high school, and to my surprise, even sometimes in college. To my great shame and embarrassment, my own father joined in on the bullying and made it worse. Things finally got better when I was able to be out on my own and find quality friends who are loyal and really care about me. It takes time, but things will get better. I hope this helps 🙂
I’m not that old either, I’m only 15, going on 16. I’ve been bullied too, but I ignore it and pretend none of it effects me. It’s hard to do, and sometimes all I could do to cope is cut and cry. But it does get better. You are beautiful, no matter what people tell you. Smile. You will be okay.
Thank you for reading this.
So basically, your question is:
“How do I avoid getting bullied?”
I’ve never been bullied much. I have sometimes been nasty to people I didn’t even know, and sometimes I’ve maybe even felt like bullying someone. Why?
I think because they seemed like an easy target. Something about them made them stand out, which I could use to my own advantage to ridicule them for being different, and thereby prove, that I was “normal” and “cool”.
Also, maybe I didn’t like them. Not in an obsessive way, they just irritated me.
Being nasty to them was a way to assert my own power, to convey that they irritated me, to score social points.
And maybe there was also that lure of doing something evil, something unpleasant. Like torturing ants with a magnifying glass. Hurting them, and watching, to see what happened.
What can you learn from this?
If bullies are anything like me, then THEY ENJOY BULLYING. They’re always on the lookout for a victim, someone, whoever, to bully.
Also, THEY TARGET PEOPLE WHO CATCH THEIR EYE, people who, for some small and insignificant reason irritate them.
THEY WANT A REACTION. They are curious, and maybe even chose you, because they want to see how you react to the bullying.
And THEY WANT POWER. They feel powerless, like a victim, even though they may be powerful, and they take it out on others.
THEY ALSO WANT SOCIAL RECOGNITION. They get this by painting other people as misfits.
This is of course speculation, and it’s up to you to find the answer to your question:
“How do I avoid getting bullied?”
Good luck.
Bullies are often insecure little narrow minded people who often grow up to be miserable adults because of their narcissism. They are putting on a show for others to make themselves look good at the expense of the ones getting bullied. The biggest thing you can do and it is hard is to not let them push your buttons. When anyone pushes our buttons and we react then we give up our power to them and we become a little puppet for them whenever they want to be entertained. If they physically harm you, then you need to report it. You could report any type of bullying to a school counselor but I know this doesn’t always happen. But it is an option. Bullying is very real and on the radar screens of schools because of the rash of school shootings. The shooters were often times the outcasts that got bullied and they took it to a tragic resolution. You are at an age that is extremely difficult but believe me it will get better. Don’t let them get you down.
Hey there. I am 19 and your story is sounding very similar to mine. I was bullied at a young age and started cutting and getting reckless. Especially in the beginning of high school. I know its different for everyone, and sometimes its hard to tell a counsellor or teacher about the bullying. But if one day you have the courage I suggest trying it. Even emailing the counsellor can help. I one day got the courage to tell someone and it helped a lot. If telling someone isnt an option thats understandable. I was bullied for years, but one year I met a person who became my best friend, I can guarantee you there is someone out there looking for a friend like you. You may have not found them yet, but you will and once the bullies see that you are happy and have confidence in yourself they will find a new target thats easier to hurt. Bullying is awful and needs to be stopped. I am very sorry that you are getting bullied and I hope it stops soon and I hope you find some good things or people in your life that remind you that life isnt always bad. I will be thinking of you.