i’m new here, and found this website due to heavily thinking about suicide. i used to be depressed, and it was like an endless, black abyss; now i am not even depressed, i’m at the point where i am numbed out. nothing makes me sad, but nothing makes me happy :/ just a little background on myself. but i found this piece in an article very interesting, it’s a read, but worth it; psychiatrists put emphasis on 3 main factors of suicide.
thoughts and opinions !
Joiner is 47 now, and a chaired professor at Florida State University, in Tallahassee. Heâ€™s made it his lifeâ€™s work to understand why people kill themselves and what we can do to prevent them from taking their lives. He hopes to honor his father, by combating what killed him and by making his death a stepping stone to better treatment. â€œBecause,â€ as he says, â€œno one should have to die alone in a mess in a hotel bathroom, in the back of a van, or on a park bench, thinking incorrectly that the world will be better off without them.â€
Dr. Joiner has proposed a new theory of why people commit suicide which he believes is more accurate than previous formulations offered by writers like Edwin Schneidman, Ph.D. and Aaron Beck, MD. According to Schneidmanâ€™s model, the key motivator which drives people to suicide is psychological pain. In Beckâ€™s understanding, the key motivator is the development of a pervasive sense of hopelessness. Dr. Joiner suggests that these are correct understandings but are also too vague to be useful for predictive purposes and not capable of offering a complete motivational picture.
Joiner proposes that there are three key motivational aspects which contribute to suicide. These are: 1) a sense of not belonging, of being alone, 2) a sense of not contributing, of being a burden 3) a capability for suicide, not being afraid to die. All three of these motivations or preconditions must be in place before someone will attempt suicide.
Although women, too, can take their own lives when they suffer at the intersection of â€œfeeling alone, feeling a burden, and not being afraid to die,â€ this is clearly a more male phenomenon. Throughout our lives males take more risks and invite injury more often. We are taught that â€œwinning isnâ€™t everything, itâ€™s the only thingâ€ and â€œno pain, no gain.â€
We often invest so much of our lives in our work, when we lose our jobs or retire we feel worthless, unable to contribute. Itâ€™s a short step to feeling we are a burden on those we love. We also put less effort into developing and maintaining friendships so we can come to feel more and more alone.
Interpersonal Theory of Suicide, can be very helpful in understanding suicide risk in men and women. The three overlapping circles help alert us to the kinds of questions we might ask ourselves if we want to prevent suicide. Joiner and his colleagues have developed a questionnaire that addresses these issues. Here are a few of the items they assess:
These days, I feel disconnected from other people.
These days, I rarely interact with people who care about me.
These days, I donâ€™t feel I belong.
These days, I often feel like an outsider in social gatherings.
These days the people in my life would be better off if I were gone.
These days the people in my life would be happier without me.
These days I think I have failed the people in my life.
These days I feel like a burden on the people in my life.
Capacity for Suicide:
Things that scare most people do not scare me.
The sight of my own blood does not bother me.
I can tolerate a lot more pain than most people.
I am not at all afraid to die.