Unfortunately I woke up to find my mother still here because she is off this week …so she begins an early morning tirade on me because my sister has been getting in trouble lately and she tried to insinuate that it may be because I am in the state that I am in….I find that absolutely ridiculous and a stupid way of removing responsibility from my sister for her actions….. she goes onto say how I am a role model for my sister (despite the fact that I am a male and females primarily look up to other females aka her mother) and how I should talk to her and etc etc now in my mind I’m thinking …”she has a father maybe if you would have MARRIED him she would have a suitable male role model to look up to” ….but no… that flies over her head….I feel as if I am being (once again) blamed for something I can’t control…Now I understand how kids are impressionable but then that makes me think….if me being like this is SOOO bad and influences her so much….then why was I kept in a home with a chronic alcoholic who used to keep us up many nights with his drunken babbling and rants? like how is that logical? and my uncle was a male…so it would be more likely that I look up to him and be influenced by him over my sister looking up to me….Why do parents feel that its okay to find a reason to blame one child for another ones actions? Am I wrong? is my sister literally freed from responsibility because of me?
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“That moment when…”
…you realize you’re smarter than your parents.
The next time this happens ask yourself,”What would Anthro do”? and proceed by rolling your eyes in the back of your head while spouting out in tongues and simultaneously groping your genitalia. Your mom will never be able to look you in eyes long enough to blame you for anything ever again.
what makes you think that,your mother doesn’t blame your sister in “private” ?….i think, she was just trying to tell you too “look after your sister”.
Your mother is shifting her responsibility onto you. I am furious FOR you. She needs to own up to her own behavior, look in the mirror, and fix THAT. We cannot fix other people. We can only fix ourselves; if and when we want to. My mother used to say I was hurting other family members simply by being ME. Other family members said I was hurting my mother.
What horrible thing did I do? Well, it was the 60’s and her beauty queen, straight A, daughter, who reflected glory onto her, came home wearing velvet bellbottoms, love beads, long straight hair, John Lennon wire-rimmed glasses. And yes, I smoked pot. Bit whoop! I never killed anyone.
Don’t let her get to you. If you need to clean up your act, you will do it FOR YOU, if and when you are so inspired. NOT for someone else or a guilt trip.
Don’t listen to your mother, she’s living in denial, deep down she must know all the things you are saying, but it’s easier to shift responsability around.
For example, my mother believes she has never failed our family and we have nothing to complain about her actions… if i had a dime for every time i’ve been able to refute that argument i’d have to live outside of my own house (i’d have no space because of all the coins in here, lol). Then a couple of hours go by, and wouldn’t you know, she swears she is mother of the year again.
Just don’t let her get to you, even if you could help your sister (and most likely you do), your sister makes her own choices, and the main responsability falls on her parents, not you.
Heh my mom did and still does to this day blame me for all my other 5 sisters and 2 brothers being drug addicts an drunks. I have heard her telling other people that it was because of me. But fact is all of us grew up from day one with all kinds of dif alcoholic boyfriends of hers an some were very abusive. The truth is that it was my little sister who got me started drinking and trying cigarettes. She is the first one who started and had been doing it for a while so i tried it to an liked it lol. Idk why she will flat out tell other people that the other younger ones started it because of me when i hadnt been doing any of those things and they had. I think she doesnt want to face up to the fact taht she helped destroy their lives causing them to be that way because she raised them from day 1 around alcoholic abusive boyfriends, she knows it was her fault and she just wants put the blame on me cuz im the oldest.