When I attempted suicide in 2012 I spoke with a shrink before I left to an institution. Do you know what he said? He said what I do to myself would effect not only me but my loved ones as well.The reason why I thought of suicide was because I over think what others think of me. Doesn’t that suck that even before we end our lives were suppose to still care for everyone else. What do you think?
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I spent my life caring for everyone else. Sometimes we have to put ourselves first…
“Need” is a funny thing. At the end of the day you really don’t need to do anything, as long as you can accept the consequences of whatever (in)action. The question is, do you actually care? If you don’t then it shouldn’t bother you. If you do care, then you are stuck with the fact that your life and what you choose to do with impacts other people.
It may seem unfair at times, like you care about others, while they may not care about you, however really your actions are far more extreme, and as such the consequences are equally extreme. Another one of life’s little jokes, compounded with the fact that often those who contemplate suicide are the ones who are most sensitive, and actually think about the feelings of others (usually).
I think it sucks, but the fact that I care about other people, comes for me with the price tag of thinking long and hard about my actions before I take them.
I think that the shrink you were talking to maybe was making the wrong point with what he was saying, but I agree, that we need to care about others. why? well lets say you’re suicidal, but you keep it a secret, and then someone you know, maybe someone quiet, who you haven’t gotten to know very well, is also suicidal, and he is also keeping it a secret. what if all he needs is a friend? but then you kill yourself, when you could’ve tried being a friend to him (though you maybe wouldn’t have known), and then what does that communicate to him? that he should just go ahead and kill himself too…
I can tell you right now i’ve been that suicidal person before… all I wanted was a friend. I actually still haven’t found what I’m looking for.
please send me an email and I can try to encourage you further. howfrail at gmail dot com
Agreed on sometimes needing to put yourself first. I’ve experienced this well-intentioned guilt-tripping as well.
I recently had a friend make a comment that suicide is one of the most selfish acts a person can commit. I can understand this a bit if you have a family to support and leave them high and dry, or someone who heavily relies on you, etc. However, what about the pain and suffering that the suicidal person experiences, especially if it’s every day and has been going on their entire adult life? Is it people that do not know what true suffering is the one’s that make comments like these? I thought my friend was one of those people, but now I wonder…
No. You should not sometimes put yourself first. You should ALWAYS put yourself first. Your needs. First. If you start basing your actions om what others need or require of you, without getting something back, with no regard for your own wants and desires….take a good look at those words. Because that is the definition of slavery. Just because you “choose” it does not stop the master/slave role developing. You CANNOT live for someone ELSE. And why would you want to? It will breed dependence, resentment…and would these people ACTUALLY come out and say “Dont die. It will hurt ME. Dont die, you need to financially support ME.” No. None of them would say that and be that disgustingly selfish. THAT is the “bad” selfish. Doing what you truly feel is best for yourself as an individual….of course that is the “good” selfish.
I had been thinking about suicide because I was tired of thinking about others. People always like to mention how selfish suicide is, but sometimes, people will just laugh at you or do their best to harm you physically or emotionally. When we don’t think for ourselves, we are basically sheep.