We grow by suffering.

You create whatever are the results of your choices and actions. But none of us have a chance to choose the preexisting conditions of our genetic manifestations or birth environments or families.

People like to say: “life is what you make it” (because it’s so simple it must be true, right?…)

But really, we are more what life makes us, than life is whatever we’re able to do with it.

And if you argue that with a new-ager, you’ll get something like criticism for “playing the victim of circumstance.” I find that new-agers are typically privileged types, who have never had the opportunity to experience true hardship, or any scenario which makes it impossible for them to get something they want, or at least an acceptable substitute.