I’ve became so attach to online dating. I’ve met so many guys who I thought could be the perfect guy. The first guy I met was cool and fun to talk to. He’s name is Jon. We talked on the phone for almost a month. When we decided to hang out, he suggested to go to a hotel. So I agreed. I have a great night, but after few weeks passed by, I heard nothing from him. I send him a text saying all these things that I lost him as a friend. Few months later I met a guy on COD: Ghost. He live near me and was pretty good looking, but when I met him in person he acted like a gangster and talked like he had never been to school before, it was really a turned off. We hook up and after he told me he love me. It was so creepy that I had to block him. A month after that happened I met another guy online, we talked single minute of the day. I fell for this guy, but a misunderstanding happened and we are just acquaintance, but I’ll get to that story later. After 8 months of losing Jon, he came back. But I have met two other guys on Badoo. Their names are Rigo and Ariel. I met Rigo, we went on a date, and had sex in his car. On Wednesday I met Ariel, I went over at his place and had sex too. I haven’t heard from him since then. On Thursday morning I went to Rigo’s place and had sex twice, but told me out of the blue that I had to leave because his dad was arriving at 12pm. When we were in the car he told me “Aren’t we rushing into things” It literally threw me off, but I guess that was a sign that nothing was going to happen. That’s when I realized that I’m a used furniture, they just want to sit on it and leave. I really want someone who will stay and not judge me for what I look like. So piece of advice, “if you’re doing online dating, make sure you get to know the person before actually meeting them in person. Let them know what are your weakness and your insecurities and that’s when you’ll realize if he’s into you or just using you.”
– I’m the usedgirl who has been used by many guys. Thank you.
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“I’m the usedgirl who has been used by many guys.”
Why do you allow that to happen then?
Koji, when I go on dates I think its gonna be one of those lets go to dinner and take you home and kiss you in the front of your door. Look I’m 23 and I know what I’m doing, good thing is that I’m using protection. I like to have sex, but I mean by I’m being used is that they have sex with me and they just stop talking to me, they pretend that I don’t exist anymore after that day. I have a heart and every time that happens I become really weak and get depress. And that is why I will not continue meeting people online.
Oh no, I hope I did offend you in any way by my question. I understand your only human and enjoy sex like anyone else, and your obviously responsible to safeguard yourself physically.
But I am aware now as to why you feel your being used. I can only assume after each encouter that ceases in contact, that you may question yourself and what did ypu do wrong that ended the relationship. This probably creates great insecurity in yourself and only aid in any possible feeling or idea of low self worth. I mean who would not feel that way, you know?
But have you ever question in general what these guys true intentions may have been. I know your intentions with meeting then were genuine in the sense of finding meaningful friendships or a relationship, but maybe their intentions weren’t so parallel to yours.
Well I’m that’s sucks I hope u find a man who will be able to love u with flaws and all it will take time just wait for that man to come.to you and to be honest I’m still a virgin myself I have never had sex yet frankly I haven’t found the man or woman to be with I’m bisexual by I love a lot but I’m afraid to do that
Thank you and hope you find the right person too. I know its scary to fall in love, but don’t be scared to show your emotions to the person you are falling in love with.
I tried falling in love once n this was back in high school I lived this I believe she was Chinese or Japanese she was always quiet n we had p.e. together one day I tolded her how I felt n she didn’t feel the same I don’t want to be heartbroken again I’m so fragile n weak to love but I just can’t get the push
Guys think you’re easy. That’s why they don’t stick around. If you want a guy to “fall for you” you have to give him a challenge. Haven’t you ever heard that you’re not supposed to have sex on the first date? If you do, you’re using the guy just as much as he’s using you. You want sex, and you’re willing. You’ve given him what he wants with no commitment, so now he has no reason to chase you. Maybe he thought you just wanted a ‘good time’ and that was that.
And you can only get to know someone gradually. Do I develop fond feelings for somebody I’ve only known for a month? Sorry, no. It takes a lot longer than that. Over time you can befriend someone, get to know each other. A relationship should be like any friendship (just with the added bonus that you’re into each other romantically/sexually – assuming one isn’t asexual).
Don’t play all your cards at once, girl. Don’t give away all your secrets at once either. You need to learn ‘social psychology’. Let people earn your affection. Stop falling head over heels for every good-looking playa who calls you ‘Gorgeous’ and buys you a drink (virtually speaking). I bet you’re an attractive woman, you just need to familiarize yourself with ‘the dating game’.
YOU are the prize. Remember that.
^^ Totally Agree.
Just be careful UG, you cannot totally trust anyone of the internet or in real life without investing a great deal of time getting to know the ‘real’ them.
Like GH said, you are the prize, make it worth the challenge.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but to me it sounds like once you like a guy, you don’t give them time to like you back, and try taking things to the next level too quickly. Maybe you should slow down. They probably think that because you like them, they can get some easy fucking time. The thing is, you shouldn’t meet anyone unless you’re certain about him, and you’re certain that he is certain about you. If he wants sex right away, don’t give in. Otherwise the cycle will repeat itself
My main point: Give feelings time to develop.
Thanks for the advice. Its probably better not to have sex on the first date though.
Or you could not have sex ever. That solves a lot of problems right off the bat, but creates several more down the road. But as far as getting to know someone for who they really are, it’s an excellent strategy. It removes a lot of those endorphin-fueled blinders.
You mean it’s good to get to know guys by having sex with them? Or by not having sex with them?
I mean by not having sex. Getting to know someone while having sex with them probably won’t work out very well, imo.
Yeah I agree, even though I’m probably not the most qualified person to assess this. Wasn’t sure what you meant by strategy.
I agree with most of the people here. Those men aren’t the only ones at fault. You act like a whore, you get treated like one. Show some self-respect, and people will begin to treat you like the person you are, and not the meat you present yourself as.
My Sister is the same way. Sleep around with men, then get all moody when they take advantage of you. To be frank, what the fuck were you expecting, exactly? I have no sympathy for you. Clean yourself up! Thanks. 🙂
Usedgirl, please value yourself more highly and don’t give yourself away to any more of these scumbags! I speak from bitter experience, am just glad I’m old and beyond all that now, I really feel for you usedgirl.
You’re a beautiful person and I apologize for everything that’s happened to you.