it all started when i was 11 my dad passed away, after living a rich life my family lost all there money and we lived in poverty.
my mother has bipolar and after my dad passed away she spent all of the money on things we did not need.
I fell in love with a girl at age 15 and her parents hated my guts because my family is not rich and they are, because i loved the girl so much i tried my best to become a young successful entreprenuar so i opened up a little cell phone shop to prove to her parents that i am a someone and that i am capable of marrying there daughter. time went on and her parents kept calling me and telling me to leave there daughter, when i was innocent i just loved the girl. i was 18 now and i had literally lost my mind because everything i loved either died, caught some disease or don’t approve me for who i am.
i was a successful young man at age 19 then it all went down hill, i got involved in smoking weed, i wanted to prove her parents wrong. so everytime i got high i would imagine me becoming the star and proving to her parents i am worthy of them. i got to into this whole drug scene of smoking weed only. and i gained a lot of weight as a was a bodybuilder as well. and my business shut down. all my cars i had worked hard for a bmw 545i a brand new toyota camry all vanished because i did not make there payments any more because of my emotions and how i had been judged. before i was judged i was a succesful student and i threw all that i was given in life to the trash because of one girl. and what ended up happening to the girl? she is studying at some IB league university in USA and im sitting here thinking about how i fucked my life over because of her. i want to kill myself i dont want to live here any more.
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I’m sorry for you. That’s a tough story. So sad that her parents stood in the way of your love. I hope you manage to return to life again.
That’s a great story. Here’s a Zen story that kind of has the same lesson.
One day a young woman in China was in love with a boy. She became pregnant with the boy’s child. Her parents hated this boy and the boy moved from the area before he knew she was pregnant. When the girls parents found out she was pregnant they questioned her who the father was. She told them that the father was a monk who lived in a monastery in the mountains. So, the girl had the baby and the parents brought the baby to the monk telling the monk that their daughter said he was the father.
The monk said, “Is that so?” That’s all he said.
So, the monk raised the child as if it were his own. The parents and daughter would visit every 5 years or so and the monk would be chastised and belittled for having broken his vows by having sex with the daughter.
The monk would only say, “Is that so?”
He continued to raise and care for the child for many years.
Then finally the daughter could not take the lie anymore and confessed to her parents that the boy who moved away was the real father, not the monk!
So, the parents and daughter went up to the mountain monastery where the daughter told the monk of her lie. She wanted the child back and was so sorry she had lied.
The monk said, “Is that so?” and instructed the child to go with his mother.
What’s the lesson? If someone belittles you, ranks you out, tries to cause you to feel small and unworthy. The best thing is to look them in the eye and say, “is that so?” then go about the business of being who you are. No one can take your honor and self worth unless you give it to them. The monk clearly did not give his self worth away.
i really appreciate that! thank you randall 🙂
Well dude dont give up on life becaus it didnt work out with on girl. there are many fish in the sea and you will find another girl to fall for one day. You sound like a pretty smart guy. I would sujest staying off the weed and stay away from any other drugs too. that stuff just brings you down and adds problems to your already problems. I would keep busy in employment if you can and also keep busy in exercise. It pays to take care of your body and to have money comeing in.
If you really dont like where you are in the world thing about a change.
It’s sad how people don’t understand the impact they make on someone’s life
The damage her parents caused you is saddening. It should be a crime, really. No one, should ever, have the right to inflict so much emotional harm. We have laws in this world to protect us against physical harm, but why aren’t there laws to protect us against emotional harm? Isn’t it just as damaging? Let her go to her IV league school, and let her parents be judgmental and narrow minded. But be yourself, the successful entrepeneur you know you are. If it’s meant to be, she’ll come back to you, not because you proved her parents wrong, but because you proved yourself right. You are successful, you’re destined for success. You’ve suffered enough, from the loss of a parent, the loss of stability, the loss of love. Go to sleep tonight, tonight is the last night you suffer because of her and her parents. Tomorrow, wake up and be successful. With or without her, with or without her parents knowing. Just be it. Because you are.