I love pens. I love finding them on the ground or on a desk and taking them for myself. I don’t know what it is about having a lot of pens that makes me feel good. I just bought 108 pens on Amazon just now for pretty cheap. I feel guilty, though, because I am from a very poor family that never had the money to buy pens or pencils for school. We’d have a few that we used, the rest were my dad’s pens which we couldn’t use since he wanted to keep them for himself. Maybe I get it from my dad. I also bought a pencil case to put them in. I’m trying to feel normal, I think, by purchasing items that normal people have, like pens and pencil cases and erasers. Even though abnormal people have these things, too. I’m at a point where I don’t think I’m depressed, and I think that my outlook on life/suicide might just be a different point of view that is equally as valid. I still feel really down and out sometimes, especially after talking to normal people, and I still feel guilty for merely existing, but I don’t think that’s because of a mental illness. I think it’s just how I am. Maybe that’s another part of me rejecting that I am unwell in order to grasp on to the idea of normalcy. Suicidal ideation and sadness is my norm. I’ve lived with these feelings not for too long (4 years), but they are all I can remember. But I guess that’s not normal in society. I can buy all the pens and pretty things this world has to offer (although I’m still very poor so it’d have to be cheap) but I will never be normal in society’s eyes. That infuriates me.
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People will judge no matter what, whether you’re “Normal” or not, people will find a way to put you down. Imagine it as words passing by. If collecting pens makes you happy, then just do it. 🙂
I like pens.
So I like this post.
It made me feel pretty calm.
“I don’t think I’m depressed, and I think that my outlook on life/suicide might just be a different point of view that is equally as valid. ”
EXACTLY!!!
I think I got this point across to one of my therapists who proceeded to try and convince me that while my way of thinking may be valid, what good does it do? That I should just reverse my thinking and all would be well in the world.
The problem is, I can’t just all of a sudden start believing that life is worth all the effort it takes to survive & assimilate into the rest of society. She agreed and said of course it would take time, patience & work. So more effort for me? Everything seems to require extra effort for me. One silly example: My husband can fold a load of laundry in 10 minutes vs. my 30.
So, let him do it right? Do you know how many things I let him do? Now I just feel like a lazy piece of shit free-rider. So all the extra effort I have to put in for countless, meaningless yet necessary tasks leaves me overwhelmed & unmotivated. Lose, lose.
I don’t understand why so many people are ok with the work required to live. The reward is old age and death. I need some other motivator.
Basically, our choices are: assimilate, continue to be miserable (i.e. mentally ill), or die (oh but suicide is so selfish….ha! if I could just grow a pair my family would be emotionally & financially free – not selfish). As you said, it is infuriating!
pens are amazing. i think we’re both obsessed with them.