Life is hard.
Nobody is looking out for your best interests.
Everyone wants to see you fail.
They want you to kill yourself.
They want you to be at your absolute worst.
The closer they have to be to you, the more malicious the intent.
Good Luck.
Without it you will fail.
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It is a dog-eat-dog world out there and some people wouldn’t mind eating others for lunch. A few years ago, I was almost in your shoes. I wanted nothing to do with anybody… and I was certain they wanted nothing to do with me. They didn’t pay the price, however. I did. It was me who spiraled downward. Not them.
Ultimately, we’re in the driver’s seat. If something happens, it’s up to us to fix it. While we can seek advice or get contributions from others, the burden is not on them. Some people are jerks. Sure. But I’m not sure putting everybody in the same hurtful category will help. Look here at SP. There are quite a few helpful people. It’s the same in life. You’ll encounter helpful people there, too. If you don’t give people a chance, you won’t know.
With full disclosure, giving people a chance is tough advice for myself to follow. But I know it’s the right thing to do. I have to accept the fact that the past is the past… and that life moves forward. New people will enter the picture… but I have to allow them in.
It maybe a dog eat dog world but I can tell this for certain, I NEVER want anybody to FAIL and have no intention of contributing to anyone’s downfall or to push anyone further down. I’ve had that happen to me so I know what it feels like so nup I won’t engage in such behaviour. I respect people’s rights.
… and that’s looking out for your fellow humans. Respect is a good word.
I tell you silversurfer I have no such intent towards you or anyone. Those that do are weak.
is that you?
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It’s nice to think of them as weak. But the world isn’t made of super heroes. Everyone’ s human, and alot of people just want to hurt you.
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distant.road is completely right.
I cannot judge you silversurfer, but it is how YOU see world around you. Try to realize that there is no such thing as bad people or jerks, many of us are just too pressured by the system.. we are taught to act in a certain ways and our way of living is dividing us as humans.. unfortunately.. by implying the idea that we are all different, but the truth is that we have are the same..this inner selves.
Right now, after being so negative about the world around me since my teens (almost 30 now) and having a depression recently.. I had this turning point.. in my way of seeing people, I just said to myself – stop value others differently, stop hiding my eyes like I do not care for or see them, stop acting indifferently and deceive myself that I do not need anyone and nobody needs me. Just try to look with understanding in to someones eyes, like they are your best friends.. look sincerely as if you were about to cry and feel their every emotion, try to recognize YOURSELF.. but do not just stare at people, it is not nice.. instead look often at them, if you really like that person. If someone do stare and makes you uncomfortable, then you could always kindly ask if they need something… could be they are giving you some signals. Now.. that I can look at people without any fear.. I do begin to notice how beautiful they actually are (well, I look at women mostly) in a NATURAL way, not like those scary barbie / unrealistic models.. but like a REAL human. This change almost feels like this cliche phrase “open your eyes”… I begin to see their facial expressions, almost experience their emotions and notice even a small things, which is only brings us together as human beings… really warming feeling.. feels like you are worth something.
I can tell you even more – when you act in a certain way, people CAN see and FEEL it, that is a FACT.. so I beg you to not judge anyone in a hurry, give them time to think about it.. and you yourself, take your time. I can recommend you to take a walk to a place where it is really quiet, so that you cannot be distracted by anything (music, cars, people).. find a place to sit somewhere, close your eyes and think about what is hurting you, what you can do to make a change.. but remember, you cannot make an INSTANT change, instead it will a gradual transition to a different state of your mind.