So, I have just confessed to my boyfriend of almost 5 months that I have come to the conclusion that I’m gay. It was possibly one of the most awful things I have had to do. He cried. He loves me. I love him. But I cannot make myself feel sexually attracted to him. I have always thought that I am probably gay but I since I had only dated one guy before him I thought maybe I just wasn’t attracted to that guy in particular. I was going through the same motions as I was in the previous relationship. Except this time I was more emotionally invested. I really do love my boyfriend. I actually dated him because I thought he had the most beautiful personality anyone could ever be gifted with. I am still baffled by how he could possibly have fallen for me. I’m all types of fucked up on the inside and out. I have battled eating disorders for more than 3 years now, my body is scarred and mistreated, and I have major self-loathing and depression. He claims he sees something beautiful in me and he wants to make me feel the best I ever can. And he has done just that. And this is all I can give him in return.
Someone who puts their whole self into being in arelationship with me and gives me their all, all for me to shit on it. And in the end, he still says he loves me. And I have the audacity to accept his love and tell him I love him back. I am what I have always thought I am. A worthless piece of shit. It only took for someone I truly love to get hurt for me to figure that out.
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I’m sorry, but I think I need to make this clear first. You mean you’re lesbian, not gay, right?
Well, yes. Same difference. I guess if we want to be technical. I always thought it was strange that there were two words for the same thing based on gender. But anyways, yes, that is what I mean.
I’m sorry, but I think I need to make this clear first. You’re lesbian, not gay right?
I have no idea why I posted this twice with two different accounts.. Sorry!
It’s quite alright. No worries. Glad to help clarify things for you.
This is not your fault at all! I am a firm believer that you can’t help who you are sexually attracted to. It is far better that you told him! You can still be in each other’s lives as friends. Please don’t feel selfish or worthless about it. It would’ve been hard for you to tell him, and because you feel bad about it, it shows that you are a caring person!