Thanks jenbrown. Sharing does reduce the pain. My life has fallen apart and I’m too old to start over. So I’m just figuring out how to survive in a world where just about everything I was afraid of happening is actually happening.
how old are you if you dont mind even i feel i cant start again cause i feel old too am 23 and still staying with my parents 🙁 what is actually happening
45. I was living w/ parents at 23 too. I didn’t even begin to start putting my life together until about 25. Things were pretty great for the next 20 years or so. Now much of what I’ve built since then is coming undone.
Same boat. Actually, it’s more like things are falling apart and I don’t have much energy to put them back together. But also too old to start over (and with very little interest in my career subject, anyway). Wheee!
My career is the biggest symptom, but my mind is halfway shot in general – concentration and working memory really suck, and that’s like my bread and butter. Some of the stuff is in the past (a great girl I lost, good friends who went nesting) and some of the stuff is in the future (a house halfway across the country that I really don’t feel like going back and selling).
Basically, I have a choice between staying put and being safe but completely ineffective, or going back and taking care of business but being completely vulnerable. And the clock is ticking.
So it’s partway fallen apart, and still going. It’s not so fun to be in the middle of it.
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hey sorry for whats happening 🙁 you can always share it reduces the pain
Thanks jenbrown. Sharing does reduce the pain. My life has fallen apart and I’m too old to start over. So I’m just figuring out how to survive in a world where just about everything I was afraid of happening is actually happening.
how old are you if you dont mind even i feel i cant start again cause i feel old too am 23 and still staying with my parents 🙁 what is actually happening
45. I was living w/ parents at 23 too. I didn’t even begin to start putting my life together until about 25. Things were pretty great for the next 20 years or so. Now much of what I’ve built since then is coming undone.
Same boat. Actually, it’s more like things are falling apart and I don’t have much energy to put them back together. But also too old to start over (and with very little interest in my career subject, anyway). Wheee!
Yep. Falling (fallen) apart. No energy. Everything. Is it just your career?
My career is the biggest symptom, but my mind is halfway shot in general – concentration and working memory really suck, and that’s like my bread and butter. Some of the stuff is in the past (a great girl I lost, good friends who went nesting) and some of the stuff is in the future (a house halfway across the country that I really don’t feel like going back and selling).
Basically, I have a choice between staying put and being safe but completely ineffective, or going back and taking care of business but being completely vulnerable. And the clock is ticking.
So it’s partway fallen apart, and still going. It’s not so fun to be in the middle of it.
you havent lost everything til you’ve lost your mind. like me. keep your fuckin wits about you and you’ll be ok.
You haven’t lost your mind. You just need to one-up this guy for some reason.
what you mean one up? I’m saying the fuckin physical losses are nothing compared to internal.
My wits and mind were the first to go. That is when the trouble started.
If you would like, I have an open ear for you. 🙂
Thanks Shalkar – is there a way to PM you?