I had such grand plans.
As a kid I would sit for hours and draw “blueprints” of my future dream house.
A large ranch nestled in the Georgia country side, complete with orchards, gardens, ponds, stables, horses, and an animal rescue specializing in turtles.
I saved the seeds of every fruit I ate for my “orchard” and bought every horse and turtle book I could find.
I really really believed it was possible. I truly did.
Now I’m 20 and I’ve been cheated on more times than I can count in my failing marriage, and at the end of September we get kicked out of our friends house because they don’t want us there for the holidays. We can’t even afford an apartment in the slums of Atlanta..
If somehow I get the courage to end it all, I’m going to do it in a way that allows some time.
Time to close my eyes and go sit on the porch of my big ranch house and watch my horses run and listen to the cicadas sing and see one more sunset as the fireflies come out for the last time.
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Try to rent an apartment with other families. Like in China, where I live, some struggling families find a three bedroom apartment and three families share the rent, and each get a room. Focus on getting a job right now, and you might never know where it leads you. The fireflies might just be disgusting mosquitoes.
You got married too young bro. On the bright side you are only 20, those dreams still have a huge possibility
It’s not impossible. Nothing is impossible at that age btw. Also, your post reminded me that I used to draw “blueprints” of my future dream house too. Especially my bedroom. So funny and beautiful how children can dream like that.
I have to agree that you got married too young and at that age usually people are still in the process of building their own personalities and concepts of value, etc. I hope that you and your wife can work things out in a near future and keep growing together.
Good luck and stay strong.
Yeah I used to draw my dream house too as a kid. I’d like to say I feel cheated out those dreams too, but really I don’t think I worked hard enough for them. At 31 it’s getting hard to catch up to my childhood expectations, but you’ve still got a good deal of time to work with. Really I hate to say so, but I think having our dreams too easy and too early in life doesn’t make them as rewarding. Please don’t give up on life. There are so many possibilities and if you’re willing to compromise a little on your goals, I think you’ll surprise yourself at how far you actually can go.
your dreams are beautiful. i loved drawing blueprints of my future house, it made the dullest days so full of hope back then. my secret is, i write now – like i drew my dreams before – for example, my dream house, my dream career, my dream life. i write about what i want. sometimes our goals seem so unreachable and unimaginable, and sometimes even impossible. sometimes i cry because i know what i write about is no where near where i am now. but thats okay. you can achieve anything. never give up on your dreams.
people have told me numerous times about how i shouldn’t give up and all, and i get irritated and angry, because isn’t that what everyone always says? in fact, isn’t that what we all say to other people as well?
don’t we say it for a reason?
suicide isn’t a solution. it isn’t the answer. why am i saying this? because if you look back at your life, you might have been through harder times than this and still gone through it. and sometimes, you feel like you’ve never faced anything this tough. but you’ll get through it, just like the negative memory you sometimes look back at.
pain ends, and all you need to do is work hard. i can imagine what you’re going through at the moment. young, jobless, and feeling worthless – thats okay. its alright.
this is what you need to do:
get a job. whatever you need, be a waiter or a bartender or anything small and little that you can find. fix shoes or make kites, do whatever you can.
later on, you’ll have enough money to get a better job. maybe people will realise you have some talent (at anything).
you’ll have enough money to stay somewhere – maybe a small one-bedroom apartment that stinks, or maybe you share an apartment with another family, or something worse.
but it will get better.
you’ll only go up from there.
maybe you’ll get enough money to buy a nice apartment. maybe you won’t.
all you need is enough money to survive, supplement, and hope.
best of luck.