This is just going to be a bunch of nonsensical rambling, but I’m just so tired of people. I’m drained, too, thus no proofreading to see if I even made sense.
Sorry for the waste of time.
Two of my friends have been inseparable since I introduced them. They became best friends. One is a lesbian, one is an inactive bisexual (she likes women, but has a child and wants a man to replace his shithead father, thus being inactive in the lady-looking-for-lady party.) I’m going to refer to them as lesbian and bisexual, hope I don’t offend anyone.
As it usually goes in the movies, the already-depressed-lesbian fell for the bisexual and has had issues in dealing with that. Not to mention the bisexual was allowing the lesbian to cuddle and hold hands with her, knowing full well the lesbian liked her and was trying to curb her feelings. But who am I to point fingers, I’ve only watched everything happen in their lives starting from before they met each other, so I obviously have no idea what’s going on and my advice is invalid. ANYWAY, MOVING ON.
I was trying to help lesbian start her path to getting over bisexual, but you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help, even though she knew nothing could or would ever have a sliver of possibility. So I decided to go to the source of all the issues and asked bisexual to stop playing pretend girlfriend with lesbian because it was only hurting her and holding her back from getting better. And I get attacked because “I have an attitude.” But you’re damn right there’s going to be some choice words in there if bisexual knew from day one lesbian liked her and she only thought of what would benefit her from this crush. You missed cuddling and she was a willing candidate? Great, now fucking date her or stop being a selfish, emotional tease. I hate seeing my friend this way. So maybe I was in the wrong for using strong language, but she’s been doing wrong for awhile, so she deserved it as well.
But fuck me for trying to help anyone clear shit up. It wasn’t even my issue and I still ended up with the mess in my lap. It literally had nothing to do with me, but I was the one that lesbian would come cry to afterwards. So it became my issue and I have enough shit of my own to deal with.
It’s just so frustrating. Both need separate help, but you can’t keep going back to your issue and expecting them to help. And I’m not going to sit around and watch either friend emotionally, figuratively hang themselves because they won’t accept my help, but instead they want me to be around and listen to them slowly tie the rope around their neck tighter. I’m not doing it.
My life is a fucking mess all on its own, with its own separate issues. I can’t even help myself deal with my own shit, let alone anyone else’s issues.
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You made perfect sense, they on the other hand do not. Sorry they kind of forced the issue onto you, that wasn’t very fair.
Hopefully they’ll come to their senses and are able to resolve it without too much collateral damage. You don’t really need extra things to worry about.
Agree fully with Freeroma.
You made a lot of sense, and I really hope at some point soon they both see that their actions are not just hurting each other they are hurting themselves. You are a good friend, and I really hope things start to look up for you and them.
Level up! You have learned a valuable life lesson. There is no possible way to do any good in these types of situations.
In the future, when you have a friend ramble on about unrequited love keep your mouth shut. In these kinds of situations I transfer vocal control to my eyebrows. So when they say, “can’t they see how good I am for them,” my eyebrows say, “are you fucking nuts, they don’t want you. Wake up!” That way nobody gets offended.