Hey,
What was that one set or even a single advice/routine/idea that really helped you?
It could be anything.
Absolutely fucking anything.
I need this cus i cant express my problem properly yet i want advice so ill just take all your advices and read them.
Thanks.
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Drugs, alcohol, sex, movies, dungeons & dragons, relationships, political outrage, music, theatre, art, travel, model building, photography, computers, MMORPGs, consoles, amusement parks, and suicidal online communities help me cope.
You jump on, enjoy the ride, give into fascination, and forget your troubles. The tricky part is knowing when to jump off before the car careens over the guardrail.
Eventually you get tired of all the hopping around and you learn to meditate.
Exercise – I forced myself to do it regularly until I loved it.
Meditation – also forcing myself and learning as I go along. Still in the beginning stages.
Love – much more helpful without being overly attached to someone and in a difficult relationship.
It’s also in the beginning stages, but trying to build a calmer, more positive voice in my head is another one. Thinking those thoughts when the others start getting more painful.
Pretty much everything i could have suggested was suggested already, except my main ones (well, not specifically at least): singing and guitar playing. Those (and most arts) are pretty therapeutic. Eating healthier and exercise do help as well, because other than improving your overall health, makes the indulgence moments a bit more special (if you’re into gulping a chocolate bar out of nowhere.. which i am, lol).
Again, the above ones are pretty good ones, so i’d go to those first. Other than that i should add: remember your human and allowed to make mistakes (involuntary ones, of course). That is one thing that shouldn’t be forgotten.
I just ask myself WWMD (What would mom do) and then do the exact opposite.
And you win today. At least in my book, not even SeeSmith can top that one, lol.
If you met my mother you would totally understand.
I know mine, and that’s why i understand, lol. I think SP also stands for sucky parents (considering the amount of members with parental complaints).
I find that it’s helpful try to let yourself like everyone, and to ignore some of the negative things you think of them because of standards or something else you set up to protect yourself in the past. Let your judgments wash over you, and try to find counters to those judgments while also finding things you like about the person. You will find yourself with a variety of friendships, and interesting people to interact with. With such diversity you should be able to identify and locate a true friendship.
This is all very presumptuous, and also close to a set of issues you may not even have. Worst of all it’s extremely personal and applicable to me, so it may not have any value to you at all. I just hope it will help, in some capacity, or maybe enhance your social interaction. Be forewarned, there is a lot of heart ache, betrayal, and resentment in putting yourself out there, but I also think it affords you a lot of knowledge about yourself inter-personally. It’s all worth the risk.