I went to visit someone that has been helping my mom. My mother respects this woman very much, because she sais she had been feeling a lot better ever since she’s been talking with her. So I made an appointment and I told this woman about my situation, she said a few things that sounded reasonable but at some point, while I was talking, she stoped me and told me I have been a cheap w*hor*e all this time, she said that it is what I am, that even if I was doing it without concious, all the same that was what I am behaving like. And now I have that expression in my mind. And I can’t take it off. And it makes me feel so bad. I don’t know what I am doing with my life.
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What a horrible thing for someone to say. You went to her for help and this is how she treats you? A therapists job is to listen without judging. This woman is unprofessional and should not be allowed to practice. Too many therapists go into the profession because they have deep issues that they are trying to sort through. This woman clearly has issues. When someone insults you it is always ALWAYS about them not you. She may be going through a divorce or maybe she hasn’t had sex in 10 years and is jealous. Bottom line is you are not a whore. Your body is yours to do what you want with. I don’t know your situation but if your lifestyle makes you feel good then rock on. If your lifestyle makes you unhappy than change it. Don’t let this crazy woman make you feel bad or influence you in any way. Sorry for the long post but I am so angry for you.
Lately I have been feeling like I am five years old again. This whole subject hit me like a bullet train. I feel dizzy.
I got the words, my body is mine. I still have to let them permeate my mind. because I want to be in peace with the things I want to live.
I read your post many times befor answering.
Thank you for writing it 🙂
Yeah, I’m with @dyinginny with this. I’m also thinking how good could this “therapist” be for your mother if she says stuff like this? Who knows what she’s telling your mom. Who knows what your mom is telling her. Maybe your mom is telling her her version of things so by the time you walk in and talk to this “therapist” she has already painted you as a “whore.” But even so, she shouldn’t so be so judge-y and especially tell you you’re a whore. That’s just crazy!
And why is being a “whore” bad anyhow? As long as it’s safe and consensual and you’re not harming yourself in any way, what’s wrong with it? Guys who get a lot of girls are called “the man” while girls who do the same are called “sluts” and “whores”. It’s fucked up.
It is fucked up, but it’s so deep inside everyone’s head that maybe I won’t ever deserve someone nice because I played around too much.
I don’t know, I am not like this, I don’t judge people for what they do with their lives or for who they have been with, I respect them for their decisions and love them for who they are, then why am I judging myself this hard?
Because society is telling us that we are “bad” if we do this and are girls. If everyone is judging you and telling you one thing, even if you know it’s wrong, it’s hard to shake off.
I think that’s very normal. I think this affects way more of us than we imagine.
Well I don’t think there is a reason for my mom to think I am a whore because she knows me better…. I guess… idk, I mean I always told my mom I was in love with him (with his one guy), and she just told me I was wrong because it couldn’t be love if he wasn’t nice to me the way she expected… But I do think she may have told that lady about me.
What I am afraid is that now that he is gone I am considering someone new… And I know is not love this time, I just want a change, to try something different than the pain i felt because I cared too much. But what if then I fall in the same situation again, of giving too much and getting nothing, because I have to give a lot to feel I can be noticed… And that’s what’s making me what she said
Moneypenny, don’t let society or your mom or some “therapist” make you feel guilt. I say go out and have fun and experiment while you’re still young enough to do it. That’s how you will learn and grow and figure out who you want to end up with. I know women who slept around like crazy before getting happily married. I’m not encouraging you to be reckless but just to follow your heart. I can relate to giving too much because you don’t feel good enough. I’ve made that mistake many many times. It’s hard to get over our insecurities. I just want you to know that you don’t have to try so hard and Mr. Right won’t make you. From reading your posts I can tell you are an amazing person. Any guy would be lucky to have you. I hope someday you realize that.
Dyinginny, you made me feel better.
Thank you very much.
You are a really nice person. Hugs
Bullshit. She needs her license revoked. Oh and a slap across the face. I’ll volunteer to do the dlapping.
Hahaha hahaha
Ok
I trust you.
Thank you 🙂
A question from a manwhore to an (allegedly) cheap whore:
Do you think she meant you were setting your “price” too low? That you settled for worse partners than you needed to?