I feel like I’ve posted something like this before…So sorry for a potential duplication. Or…Whatever.
Anyway! A lot of times people will do “weird” things caused by depression, or other “disorders,” that can cause oddball behavior. Half the time – ok, I don’t have actual stats, so I’m basically pulling shit out of my ass – but a lot of the time, the behavior is just dismissed as someone “looking for attention.” This NEVER MADE ANY SENSE TO ME. Even on here, so many posts are about it: I did [behavior] to express that things aren’t ok, and it was just dismissed. I really wonder WHY this shit happens. Do people (therapists, whoever) not want to deal with it, so they just tell people to stop looking for attention? And who the fuck wants that kind of attention anyway? It’d be negative, at best. I wonder how (and when) that started. Eh, we (as society) don’t feel like dealing with depression, or whatever, so we’ll just tell people to stop it for “attention.”
Ugh.
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This has been one of my pet peeves too, for a long time.
Exactly what you said…
They don’t want to deal with it (or don’t want to accept that they could be part of the problem), so they blame us instead.
So what weird thing did you do that garnered the comment “you just want attention”.
Nothing, though I’ve seen it enough on here (and other places), and just got fed up with the whole mentality.
yeah, I tried telling my mom once how shitty I felt & had been feelings for months, she told me I was hormonal.
happens a lot when people come out too, they get dismissed for not knowing themselves or just wanting attention. happened to me trying to come out to my mom. it was a shit idea but at least now I know for sure you can’t tell people important things unless they’re therapists & are legally bound not to gossip & trained not to act judgmental
So you came out as gay to your mom and she blew you off. wow, gosh I am so sorry. No wonder you are in this state. there are a lot of LGBTQ (did I get all the initials? Every time I type that it seems they add a few more). Gosh it is hard enough being a teenager, add that to it and hard.
There are lots of people out there that not only understand (like many here including me) but have been there Keep talking this out. This is a workable thing in your life.
hazy read that first sentence again..
yes but the second sentence says “happens a lot when people come out”. What did I miss?
reread your first sentence again
OMG.
Hazy.
“blew you off”.
😀
@ cordless hazy lost the internet on that one..
OHHHHH.. oh. Yeah I lost the internet today. I totally read it wrong. Okay. She’s not gay, not that there is anything wrong with not being gay, it is totally okay with being hetero, many people are. I am. I mean I was raised by two very loving women and I turned out hetero and they totally accepted me for it. So absolutely. I just assumed. which you know what makes me (oh and you too….) LOL oh she diiiiid nooooot.
oh my god you guys, I consider myself dirty minded but that’s just a whole other level….
yeah I had a crush on a girl and had no idea what to do, tried telling my mom I was bi before I specifically talked about a crush and got shut down (THERE. try making a joke out of that). it’s fine, she doesn’t have to get it and I didn’t think through telling her anyway, it was a bad idea.
thanks for supporting 🙂
OHH wait there sportsnut YOU might have lost the internet today.
Seriously 4beyonehelp, parents are sad folks fumbling in the dark for answers. They rely on what their parent did, and if what their parents did is messed up or just plain abusive, or ignorant, then they spend a lot of time just fumbling and trying to figure out why their kids hate them.
yeah, I get that parents are flawed people like the rest of us. I love my mom more than anything though, I’d have attempted a lot sooner than today if not for her. she’s really great and she’s got enough on her plate, so I get why it’s easier not to think about what might be on mine.
hazy day you sound like you really care about your kids and show it properly, which I think at the end of the day means the most.
sorry Greenz if I’m derailing your post, I hope people don’t tell you BS about seeking attention or anything
Just another day of thread hyjacking here at SP. Pretty common, few care. The ones that do post with the comments turned off.