This is my first post so I don’t really know how this works. But I grew up with older parents, so to start off a couple years ago my dad passed away and that was unexpected. So I went into a deep depression and had a counselor but I said I was doing better and stopped going. Then just this year my mom passed as well. Her passing seemed expected because she has been sick for such a long time. And for both of my parents I didn’t really get to grieve afterwards. Right after my father passed we moved and so then when my mother passed I just tried not to grieve all together cause no one else really did. I just hurt all the time now, physically and mentally. I try to hide it but it’s getting harder. Words of encouragement is nice but just feels like it makes me hurt more. 🙁 I don’t know what to do and I just miss my parents so bad.
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I am so sorry for your losses. You need something. Perhaps a grief group get together? Your drs office should know of any. Or counselling again? Do you have other family you can be open with about how you really feel?
Well I try not to be home because that where I watched both of my parents pass. My brother is my guardian now but he has a family at the house and I don’t want to ask for too much. But I just don’t want to cost my family money (I know it’s ridiculous)and my family isn’t struggling with money either, I just don’t want to burden them in the slightest. The counselor was quite expensive and that was one of the reasons I quit before because I feel like I shouldn’t be expensive. I feel stupid to talk to people about being sad because I just get pity and I don’t want to be pitied I just need to talk about it and I feel like I can’t.
I do not think that you should hold back your grief as I do not think that that is healthy. When we are physically hurt, we bleed and bruise. You have suffered a couple of extremely significant emotional blows and you should let that “bleeding” process take it’s course (cathartic). Do what you need to to work through it. Express yourself in art, journal, go for long drives and scream in your car if you need to. Parents typically naturally pass before their children. You did mention that you had older parents. “I don’t know what to do and I just miss my parents so bad.” You are coming into your new self without your parents now. If need be and possible, find surrogate parents for a while and slowly taper off of their parenting. You have suddently found yourself without your parents when before, they were a reference point in your life and now you are not sure who and how to be without them. It’s going to take it’s own natural time, but I believe you are going to work through it and come out stronger. Best wishes.
Thank you for your kind words. I usually stay at my boyfriends house and his parent are like parents to me, but it’s just not the same. :/
The grieving process can take quite a long time. Some people never stop grieving. Unfortunately the pain and suffering that you are feeling is normal. It means that you are Human. You may find comfort in finding some sort of grieving support group–as thewisperofmysins already pointed out.
The people there know what you are going through and can help you, AND you can help them too!!!
You can help each other and what is better than that?
It sounds like an okay plan. Thank you, I will look into that.
Hey girl. My parents were old too. They are dead and I’m alone totally exposed to real world. No help and tones of responsibilities. Big shit our life became right??
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If you wanna talk. I’m here!
Yeah haha Thank you