The joke in the title aside, I’m serious here. I don’t think I understand what love is. I know a lot of people talk about sexuality and stuff… whatever, that’s exactly not what I mean. (to be honest I’m one of those few people who still think homosexuality is wrong, don’t kill me… please?)
I can’t even say I love my parents, or my siblings. They haven’t wronged me in any way, I’m lucky that I was raised by such caring people, but I don’t think I feel “love” for them. Perhaps- respect? Is that the same as love?
All of this just recently occurred to me. My younger sister came up to me to hug me and I just kind of pushed her out of the way. I didn’t want another person touching me with no valid reason. It occurred to me that I wouldn’t mind if I woke up and my family all died tomorrow.
So back to my question, what exactly is love? Do I feel it and not realize it? Is it something I should feel for my family considering how useful they’ve been to me?
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You never notice love until who you love is gone, I know exactly how you feel, just spend time with your family, treat them as total strangers and maybe you’ll eventually feel that ‘love’.
That’s how I’ve been approaching it, hopefully it works. Thanks for the advice.
Love is different for everyone. And it is possible that you are feeling love but just don’t know how to deal with it. for me Love is this overwhelming feel inside my stomach, its like if i don’t hug or express my feelings Im going to explode. I mostly feel this for my pets, I would do anything for them. When I look at their cute little faces and see the trust in their eyes I just can’t help but love them because if i don’t I could explode. Its hard to explain but that’s the best why i could describe it. I wish you luck!
A feeling in your stomach huh? I can’t say I know what that feels like, but maybe eventually I will. Good luck with whatever you’re having problems with in life too.
Love has nothing to do with how useful a person is to you, or even their “worth”. It’s something automatic and uncontrollable, you can’t force it. It also depends on what love you talk about, familial, platonic, romantic? They’re all different, with romantic, arguably, being the strongest.
Really? I must be approaching this wrong then. Whenever I try to convince myself to love someone, I would always think of all the things they did for me. I guess that method is wrong in multiple ways according to what you said. You can’t force it and it’s not about a person’s worth?
I guess I’ll just have to wait and see if I ever experience it then. Thanks for the advice.
Love is hard to identify…. I agree with Jamal about noticing it once you lose the person, at least that’s the way I normally determine it :/
I guess that might be why I have a hard time determining it then. I haven’t ever lost anyone close to me so maybe when I do I’ll realize.
Although… I did have a dog that died, but I wasn’t really bothered by it. The only thing that changed was that I had less responsibility in my life (feeding, walking etc.) which was fine by me 😛