My aunty is visiting me before I leave for college, and she is the prettiest of my mom’s siblings because she uses the most makeup and she is the “beauty expert”. The only downside to this is that she cares way too much about her looks and comments on other peoples’ too. I was at the mall with her today with one of my other family members, and she kept talking about how much smaller she is than I am, yet she still has more than double my breast size. She kept saying comments during dinner (we ate saucy chicken wings from her favorite restaurant) about how because I eat these unhealthy foods all the time (which is not true at all), I will become fat and unhealthy in the future. Being someone who has gotten over anorexia, bulimia, depression, anxiety, and more, these comments started to bother me after a while.. I still don’t know what to do because it’s only her second day here, and her whole trip is 14 days in total.. I leave for college 6 days before she leaves, but I don’t know how I will withstand those days.. I feel like with every word she says about weight, she burns my self-esteem down more and more..
Also, when I first saw her, I knew that she hasn’t been eating right because she looked malnourished and very similar to an anorexic person.. And I think for a split second I wanted to look like that, too
I love myself.. But these comments are making me love myself less and less..
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Sadly she’s probably insecure about herself and she constantly needs reassure herself by putting others down, its not healthy for her or anyone around her, if you can talk to her
Sorry for being so blunt, but your aunt is a *****. I can’t think of a better way to say it. It may be hard to ignore her, but people like that just aren’t worth the effort. Growing a thick skin and becoming a walking middle finger to everyone that tries to judge you can be a pain, but that’s the only reason I’ve managed to stay alive this long.
Does she have the fatty?
It’s sad for your aunt that she is feeling so insecure and probably has an eating disorder. She probably relied on her looks a lot in life being ”the pretty one”. Maybe she has been really nervous and insecure about the visit and has been restricting and or purging ahead of it. Sad for her but it’s too toxic and triggering for you to be around her whilst she is so unhealthy physically, mentally and emotionally. I would probably try and avoid her as much as possible. If that’s not possible then I guess confrontation might work. Maybe just saying ”I don’t think weight is important. I am as healthy as I want to be. I am going to college soon so I don’t want to waste my brainpower counting calories or macros.” Maybe it is good practice for college because these kind of people spreading their disorder are going to be at college too, unfortunately.
Well done for getting over eating disorders, depression and anxiety. If you hadn’t and were still functioning the way your aunt is functioning you probably wouldn’t be going to college. Don’t let anyone spoil it for you or take away your accomplishment! You can achieve much greater things than being the smallest one in the room. Let someone else take that role and get on with the important stuff.