wrong.

I do not really think you are “meant” to be anything. You probably have preferences, but that is it.

I had a similar situation recently, I was playing on three horses, invited one over, then realised I could not be bothered to clean my appartment for her. So I cancelled. What seemed so appealing when I was lonely and horny seemed less so when I suddenly had to spend my day doing housework. I am not serious about any of the three. I realised that I am all for serial monogamy, but several people at once… it just gets too emotionally confusing. Multitasking does not work (for me, anyway).

There must have been something you were looking for in this guy. I think you need to either work on your relationship or leave it. But that is just my opinion.