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This indecision is killing us, so to speak.
Welcome to SP. We are all philosophers here. Is there a particular event that has caused you to go overboard? Or is it just being fed up with life in general?
Thank you guys. Well I’m still here. There was an artical I read last night that I found thru here that said just to wait 24 hours before doing anything. So here I am waiting 24 hours. And tonight I’ll try to wait another 24 hours. Then the next day I will try again.
I have a child with this girl that I feel in love with. She was one of my best friends for years and one night we got drunk and well you know how that goes. She is gay and we never dated. I’m in love with her and she found someone else and I was just replaced. She is a narcissist and a liar and her true colors are coming to light. She will probably move in with this girl with my son and the thought of me living without my son or having someone else in his life like that is killing me inside. I can’t eat. I can’t sleep. I can’t think. I just go thru the motions everyday with work friends life.
I think of how easy it would be just to pull the trigger and be done with it.
Hey mate. I feel for you
That is one of the reasons i never decided to have kids. It’s too fucking complicated. It also exposes yourself to a world of hurt.
I hope you can be strong for your sons sake. But everyone here understands your reasons why and will sympathise with you.
Even if, worst case scenario your kid goes, well you can still be in his life mate. I know it’s not the same as having him with you, but you can still play an active part in his upbringing.
Sometimes thinking of the future scenario can be worse than what the actual experience is.
Just try to do the best for your kid. Everything else is just fluff.
Hey there Niko. I’ve read once a similar article but with a 3-days rule. Wait 3 days. If during these 3 days even for a moment you feel a little better, start the counting from the beginning.
Niko, if you’re the father then I’m sure you can fight for your son, especially if as you’re telling she’s a narcissist etc. There’s still in many countries stigma on same-gender pairs with children, you can use it.
I’ve always wanted kids this is just not at all what I wanted. I think you are right in some sense I have these horrible thoughts about the future and right now all I can think about if not living with my son anymore. I love him more than anything in the world. He is autistic so if I disappeared from the picture I don’t think he would notice. He is a very loving kid and sweet but I don’t know if he would notice. That’s another part that kills me. It’s an easy way out. There would not need to be a conversation with my 5 year old on why daddy is not around here.
Notwbiteorblack it was a great artical. I think it kinda saved my life last night. Whether that is good or bad is to be determined. I gave myself the 24 hours at first. You made me feel a little better and this site is great. I have no outlet. This helps. A lot.
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Welcome to the philosophy club of SP. Sorry you’re joining us.
We hope you find reason to leave for more life-affirming endeavors.
If found, please let us know.
This indecision is killing us, so to speak.
Welcome to SP. We are all philosophers here. Is there a particular event that has caused you to go overboard? Or is it just being fed up with life in general?
Thank you guys. Well I’m still here. There was an artical I read last night that I found thru here that said just to wait 24 hours before doing anything. So here I am waiting 24 hours. And tonight I’ll try to wait another 24 hours. Then the next day I will try again.
I have a child with this girl that I feel in love with. She was one of my best friends for years and one night we got drunk and well you know how that goes. She is gay and we never dated. I’m in love with her and she found someone else and I was just replaced. She is a narcissist and a liar and her true colors are coming to light. She will probably move in with this girl with my son and the thought of me living without my son or having someone else in his life like that is killing me inside. I can’t eat. I can’t sleep. I can’t think. I just go thru the motions everyday with work friends life.
I think of how easy it would be just to pull the trigger and be done with it.
Hey mate. I feel for you
That is one of the reasons i never decided to have kids. It’s too fucking complicated. It also exposes yourself to a world of hurt.
I hope you can be strong for your sons sake. But everyone here understands your reasons why and will sympathise with you.
Even if, worst case scenario your kid goes, well you can still be in his life mate. I know it’s not the same as having him with you, but you can still play an active part in his upbringing.
Sometimes thinking of the future scenario can be worse than what the actual experience is.
Just try to do the best for your kid. Everything else is just fluff.
Hey there Niko. I’ve read once a similar article but with a 3-days rule. Wait 3 days. If during these 3 days even for a moment you feel a little better, start the counting from the beginning.
Niko, if you’re the father then I’m sure you can fight for your son, especially if as you’re telling she’s a narcissist etc. There’s still in many countries stigma on same-gender pairs with children, you can use it.
I’ve always wanted kids this is just not at all what I wanted. I think you are right in some sense I have these horrible thoughts about the future and right now all I can think about if not living with my son anymore. I love him more than anything in the world. He is autistic so if I disappeared from the picture I don’t think he would notice. He is a very loving kid and sweet but I don’t know if he would notice. That’s another part that kills me. It’s an easy way out. There would not need to be a conversation with my 5 year old on why daddy is not around here.
Notwbiteorblack it was a great artical. I think it kinda saved my life last night. Whether that is good or bad is to be determined. I gave myself the 24 hours at first. You made me feel a little better and this site is great. I have no outlet. This helps. A lot.