Ugly people

hey, thanks for your response on my post. I get where you’re coming from, where situations can be like two sides of the same coin (because shitty people will find a way to make everyone around them feel horrible) but I hope you don’t get too down on yourself. first of all, it sounds you like are a great person, and I believe that’s the most important thing, no matter what. second, I think it’s really harsh to call yourself “ugly.” there are countless spectra for attractiveness, and I think quite a lot of people fall very high on some and low on others, myself included. beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, and I’ve found that personality can do a lot to add or subtract from someone’s attractiveness. additionally, you CAN find someone if you want to! I know sometimes it can feel impossible, like no one will ever like you or want you, but that is so not true. that’s how I felt all throughout high school, because I was quiet and focused on homework and wasn’t in the popular circles, so no guys even payed attention to me (blessing in disguise, really). but as soon as I went out in the world and traveled and went to university things were different. so maybe you aren’t having romantic luck in your current circle–trust me, that doesn’t mean you’re doomed to be single forever!

but some guys really suck and make everything about physical appearances & their wants/needs. if a guy doesn’t want to date you because he says you aren’t “hot” or likes to talk about how pretty/ugly other girls are, I promise you that you don’t want to date him either (spoiler: he sucks). physical attraction is necessary (imo) for a healthy relationship, but that comes in many forms. I hope you can find someone who is sweet, caring, and genuine 🙂