I don’t want to hear it from someone with a privileged background.
The only people to gain anything from unsolicited advice are the very same patronizing individuals who badger me to get my shit together. They would pat themselves on the back for being so “helpful” — acting like know-it-alls, thinking they have the solutions that will change my life; when in actuality, none of their preaching is beneficial. Most of their suggestions had already been futile endeavors or I can’t afford the options or I don’t have access to opportunities that would at least make my goals attainable.
But even when I was willingly seeking help from therapists, psychiatrists, and social workers, they would also assume that I’ve never actively tried to improve my situation and merely complained day after day. Wrong. So I’m hesitant in making another appointment because it will only leave me vulnerable again to harsh criticism.
I need a doctor to adjust my meds, and actually listen to what I’m saying instead of talking over me. I just hate being invalidated by someone who hasn’t experienced first-hand my past and current hardships.
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I’m sorry that the therapists you’ve tried were rude, I am quite happy that I was lucky enough to find one who was a decent person, and he was helpful at least for me. I haven’t found a doctor that was really that helpful though yet, the one I tried I just sat down and answered “yes” to most of her questions.
I don’t have much of a choice because of my location and ethnicity. It’s always the same uncaring assh*les being referred to me. Nobody really wants to help.
And I’m done trying to be nice to people who obviously don’t give a shit about me. They take, take, take, take without ever giving anything back. I want to ask this one person, What’s to be jealous of? Why do you hate me so much? I don’t understand. I shouldn’t care but I’m tired of being treated unfairly by all these fake ass b*tches.
I’ve been trying to figure out how to answer this properly for you, I hate all these fake ass b*tches!!!
It’s alright. Even saying “I understand and it sucks” would suffice.