I don’t want to hear it from someone with a privileged background.
The only people to gain anything from unsolicited advice are the very same patronizing individuals who badger me to get my shit together. They would pat themselves on the back for being so “helpful” — acting like know-it-alls, thinking they have the solutions that will change my life; when in actuality, none of their preaching is beneficial. Most of their suggestions had already been futile endeavors or I can’t afford the options or I don’t have access to opportunities that would at least make my goals attainable.
But even when I was willingly seeking help from therapists, psychiatrists, and social workers, they would also assume that I’ve never actively tried to improve my situation and merely complained day after day. Wrong. So I’m hesitant in making another appointment because it will only leave me vulnerable again to harsh criticism.
I need a doctor to adjust my meds, and actually listen to what I’m saying instead of talking over me. I just hate being invalidated by someone who hasn’t experienced first-hand my past and current hardships.