the problem is i am toxic.
Studies have shown that caretakers of BPD patients suffer a significantly higher degree of grief, burden, loss of empowerment, depression and anxiety than caretakers of people with other serious mental illnesses.
on top of that i have purposefully physically hurt the one i love because of my disorder.
But you acknowledge the issue? You take responsibility for it? Sounds like you are. From my own personal experiences that’s one of the most important things. It just won’t fucking work if someone doesn’t want to see their own issues like that, though I have more experience with narcissism than with bpd.
I haven’t looked into the studies but I have read about the disorder and figured it would usually have some kind of an impact along those lines. To some degree anyway. Do you talk with them about it makes them feel and affects them?
I don’t know. Like I mentioned I don’t really do much talky so social stuff is not my strong suit. You might get a second opinion from someone else on something that important, but I was just thinking of those things you mentioned from the study. Guess I’m just wondering what someone could do in that kind of a situation to counter those feelings of loss of empowerment etc in a loved one.
4041/1/2020 - 10:46 am
i talk to him about some things but he just tells me hes fine and to not worry about it. but i do worry because i know he would lie to me on the subject
4041/1/2020 - 10:50 am
well to figure out a way to help with those problems one would first need to know the cause. what about taking care of someone with bpd causes that. id have to assume the loss of empowerment is cause from watching them suffer and knowing you have no power to help them and it just kinda spirals from there
no one1/1/2020 - 1:51 am
Also, get him a late xmas gift that goes BZZT that he could poke you with if that physical thing ever comes up again?
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One of my favorites. Why I avoid relationships of any kind like the plague. That and just being scared as fuck of people lol.
Funny thing is, I find people on here tend to think they’re a lot more toxic and bad for the other people in their lives than they really are.
the problem is i am toxic.
Studies have shown that caretakers of BPD patients suffer a significantly higher degree of grief, burden, loss of empowerment, depression and anxiety than caretakers of people with other serious mental illnesses.
on top of that i have purposefully physically hurt the one i love because of my disorder.
But you acknowledge the issue? You take responsibility for it? Sounds like you are. From my own personal experiences that’s one of the most important things. It just won’t fucking work if someone doesn’t want to see their own issues like that, though I have more experience with narcissism than with bpd.
I haven’t looked into the studies but I have read about the disorder and figured it would usually have some kind of an impact along those lines. To some degree anyway. Do you talk with them about it makes them feel and affects them?
No we haven’t talked about it. Do you think it could help?
I don’t know. Like I mentioned I don’t really do much talky so social stuff is not my strong suit. You might get a second opinion from someone else on something that important, but I was just thinking of those things you mentioned from the study. Guess I’m just wondering what someone could do in that kind of a situation to counter those feelings of loss of empowerment etc in a loved one.
i talk to him about some things but he just tells me hes fine and to not worry about it. but i do worry because i know he would lie to me on the subject
well to figure out a way to help with those problems one would first need to know the cause. what about taking care of someone with bpd causes that. id have to assume the loss of empowerment is cause from watching them suffer and knowing you have no power to help them and it just kinda spirals from there
Also, get him a late xmas gift that goes BZZT that he could poke you with if that physical thing ever comes up again?