I really think whatsapp has to take the the large part of the responsibility here. Theres something about whatsapp that causes a certain rearrrangement and reshuffling of the brain when it comes to txt messages from a potential romantic interest.
Everything was fine up until last week, txting back and forth, a certain simpatico had been established, She was doing most of the txting and it was pretty cool and then last Saturday I txted and straightaway I felt this vibe, somethings wrong here, shes not txting back. If this had been on another messaging format I doubt I would of cared but theres something about whatsapp that led me to interpret this as a fuckoff, this rearrangement of the brain I spoke off one becomes ultrasensitive to no response. I could never send a second txt unless it was a weed related matter, if it was weed related I would have no hesistation txting half a dozen times and then calling but this situation was different and therefore required a different response. Its a very tricky thing, I could never get my head around it and never will be able to get my head around it but experience taught me that if I there is a complete withdrawal and cessation of attention with immediate effect from my side she will come back, all that bullshit is actually true, but it aint easy, there is no certainty here, a high probability but no certainty.
Two days later she txts, I dont reply, she txts again, I dont reply, I got 2 days of silence so decided to give back 4 days, once again whatsapp has brought me back to a teenage like mentality, Im in my 30’s, shes in her 20’s and this is highschool stuff, a 3rd txt comes through, I dont reply, shes making a fool of herself and if the truth be told im starting to feel sorry for her and want to reply but it was gonna have to be 4 days minimum
4 days later I txt, I get a reply within a minute, txting back and forth, she txts ” what r u doing 2day?”. I know where this is going and txt ” I dunno yet, why?”. She txts ” do u wanna meet up?” The very woman who only a month ago in an angry txt had declared boldly ” women will not and should not make the first move, ur gonna have to take my word for this” had now done a complete uturn and was trying to make something happen here.
I called, she answered immediately, I had forgotten her voice was attractive, girly girl, giggly ” a ha ha, how are you?” she said. ” I cant meet today,Ive a load of bullshit to do, a load of errands, next week we’ ll meet” I said. ” cool, next week then, what errands do u have?” she said. ” errands” I replied and didnt specify further, we chatted for another 2O mins and then I called time on the conversation citing errands.
There was none of this crap in Shakespeares time, no whatsapp, no desire to retaliate because of whatsapp, I really would of preferred to live in the 17th and 18th century, you had a better life, a lower standard of living admittedly but a better life, no technology, technology makes it harder not easier.
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“technology makes it harder not easier.”
There it is. My sole experience with cyber dating turned out to be a total fiasco. I hurt her, she hurt me, etc. And the funny thing is if I’d met her in person first, it would’ve never happened. It would’ve taken less than one minute to realize we weren’t a good match for each other. Nothing replaces in person contact. It’s important.
Hey Once, I actually met her first IRL so there was a mutual attraction established first, Online dating I totally agree its gonna be a fiasco! If u meet her in the real world its different.
Been there, done that, failed at that a million times. Imho technology fucks up with people’s anxiety and expectations (might be wrong here, just my opinion). The fact that you know it’s basically instant and that you get confirmations plays a big part into it. Those ticks in whatsapp… those DAMNED tics that let you know that the other person read the you message yet didn’t want to answer… or did he/she? maybe they’re busy? maybe there was an accident? maybe they’re cheating?… yeah, you know what i’m getting at.
@Mf Ikr those 2 blue ticks on whatsapp…. its not easy!