Its never my turn. My last partner, almost 3 months ago, left me for drugs. “Over drugs or you? Drugs, sorry but your too bubbly.”
Am i not important enough? Ive had 26 partners. Im not even out of high school. Most date me to grt closer to my best friends, but theres one, this one person ive liked for almost 4 years now. And it hurts. It hurts so damn much. I want to asked him out. I do, but im scared.. what do i do? Im asking for help here.
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Just do it. You should never regret anything you’ve done, no matter how stupid or misguided it was in hindsight, it’s what’s led you to where you are now. If you’ve wondered and wanted for 4 years to do a thing, and not doing that thing has kept you waiting in the wings, the only answer is to do that thing and see what happens. If it doesn’t go how you want, then stop wanting things to go any particular way and see where what you do will take you.
Ill think on that. It means a lot. And your right. Maybe i should go with the flow sometimes.
I can’t comment on drugs, as the worst I’ve done is alcohol and a bit of weed/cigs. But I know for some it’s an addiction. Trust me that guy did you a favor, do you want to try to save a drug addict a few years from now?
As for your partners, it can give you a ‘reputation.’ I’d always advise one to choose quality over quantity but it’s also about what you prefer when it comes to relationships.
Regarding the guy you like, I fully concur with Rivets. It’s not easy to approach others and face rejection, but it can also be very exciting when you learn they also like you too.
No risk no reward, don’t live with regrets, take it from an old hound dog like me. Had I had 10% more courage, but also 10% more humility, I probably wouldn’t have been on this site now as I would’ve made better decisions and might’ve found my s/o.
Also because you’re in high school, you’ll find guys are more immature at that age, so I wouldn’t expect to find your mr right, right away, though it has happened in rare cases.
“Immature” is an understatement. Half of them still act like kindergarteners.
Twenty six partners? several things can be concluded from that, and your statement about not being out of high school;
1; the relationships are generally short by human standards, likely on average being measured in weeks.
2; despite being knocked down quite a few times, you do seem to recover remarkably quickly
3; there’s something involving insecurity in here, whether perceived or actual.
meanwhile I’m in my 30s, and rounding year nine in my current relationship. I’m not sure what to offer you. I wish I had been less attached in my younger years, it led to my ongoing sorrow that I cared for people who didn’t care for me.
I had one relationship where they treasured drugs over me, and the funny part is I ended it because I couldn’t respect myself in that situation. This time, between partners, is a good time to work on identifying yourself. Being alone is unpleasant, but sometimes necessary. If you have someone you want to care about, start by learning to care for yourself.
Any relationship where one partner requires the other for emotional equilibrium is at least somewhat codependent, and from my perspective terminally unhealthy. Ideal relationships are between equals, two fully functional people who enjoy each other’s company.
Yeah. I get that last sentence. Thats one thing that i like about him. Both of us are very up front with each other. They also respect me and my choices, just as i do with him. It’s nice.
And yeah i do move on fast. My parents are partly the reason for that. I guess tho its mainly in me for giving in.
In your first reply, it’s last sentence, I think rivets is on to something there.
When we push so hard to have relationships that seem not to satisfy and last, we need to know why.
May I? High school is a time to prepare for the long life that may very well be ahead of you. As an old fart, may I advise? Be selfish at this age. That’s right, selfish. Prepare yourself. Partners, good partners, need time, just as you do, to prepare themselves, exorcise their own demons, and quite literally let their brain finish growing up, which at around 25 years is a whole different headspace, namely, literally, the prefrontal cortex.
honestly think i may. Him and i were talking last night about the two of us. I am moving back up to where he lives. And he asked me out to see a movie. Imma see how this goes. Thank you.
May I say? What heartlessviking said is well worth your consideration.
Thank you. Im thinking on it. I get attached to people easily as well. And i move around a lot so i have a lot of people everywhere. Maybe i will