We get told ALL the time that it’s our mindset, our outlook, what we believe and what we tell ourselves that creates happiness and better lives for ourselves.
Is that really true?
I mean it’s having a “positive mindset” PLUS action I assume they all mean.
Ppl who just tell themselves they are awesome or tell themselves good things while looking at the mirror (what all those self help books tell us to do) – doesn’t work.
Fake words don’t do shit to help us feel better about ourselves and overcome depression.
But- I did once have confidence in myself. I had determination and I had drive. And I achieved the things I set out to do. It was ACTION and RESULTS that created more confidence and drive. But it also required confidence and drive to START with, so that I went out to do things and accomplish things.
It’s always a vicious cycle- you need drive and confidence to accomplish things, but you need accomplishments to feel confidence and have more drive.
I guess now that I’ve lost my drive, my will, my oomph, which then in turn leads to inaction, depression and lack of confidence, what do I do?
I haven’t been able to get back my confused drive the past 20 years. Only getting more physically sicker each more.
I need to get out of this depression cycle but I’m stuck in a mud pit / quicksand.
I was motivated and had drive in the past. I was not super confident but I somehow had absolute confidence in everything I set out to do.
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Also, does being successful really require a “positive mentality”? If we don’t think we can attain happiness and whatnot, does it actually doom us? I absolutely hate toxic positivity bc it’s so out of hand- but-
Do we actually NEED to have a “positive outlook” in order to achieve things? Do we NEED to have confidence in ourselves and confidence in the universe that things will work out?
The younger me that had such drive and determination never once doubted myself. I never thought to myself “I’m going to fail.” Failure was never something I even considered. Like I just HAD the confidence that I would succeed in x, y, z thing I set out.
I suppose I was “delusional” back then. But I did achieve those things I was told was “impossible.” Do I need to go back to being delusional to regain my confidence? Not that I have been able to get my confidence back, which is another matter.
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I guess I’m trying to figure out how the fuck do I have this fire in me again? Without this fire, this intense drive that i had, how do I get out of this rut I’m in?
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I feel old and tired and battered.
But I don’t want to roll over and die just yet, without making something of myself. -_-