I’m fourteen years old and currently in middle school. I’m being bullied by a boy in my Spanish class. I barely know this kid but he’s always bothering me. He says the meanest things to me and I just want him to leave me alone. I just mind my own business and talk to my friend, and he just makes rude comments or makes fun of things I say to my her and I wasn’t even talking to him. I haven’t done anything against him or given him any reason to hate me, yet he still does. He’s done this the whole year. He’s even cursed at me several times. I try to ignore him, but it gets hard to to that after a while. I just want him to stop. I been to the school counselor countless amounts of times, but they don’t help at all. I don’t want to go complain against him anymore because I know they’re not going to do anything, and I’m tired of looking like a tattletale. I don’t say anything back to him because I know he’s going to reply to that which an even smarter, wittier comment making me look like an idiot. So I just try to ignore him the best I can. Please give me some advice. What should I do now to make him stop? He’s even insulted my friend before, but he doesn’t pick on her as much as he picks on me. These last few years of my life have been horrible, and I’ve had suicidal thought repeatedly. Next year, high school will be even worse because there will be more bullies there. I don’t want to go to high school. But how do I get this person to leave me alone for now?
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I had this problem as well and now that I look back when that was happening to me, I wish I would have done something. See a different counselor, tell your teacher before or after class or see your principal. Don’t let it happen anymore! Don’t stop asking for help, they need to help you, it’s their job. Sooner or later you’ll get through, don’t give up!
most bullies are that way coz they are bullied themselfs or treated badly you could try doing something really nice for him when the right kind of situation arises that would make him consider leaving you alone even for a short time also dont believe what he says dont take words to serious/2heart your better than him and stronger for putting up with his shit when jelous noobs in chat room troll/hurl abuse at me i enjoy it doesnt effect me anymore and laugh because it makes me realize just how sad they are to have to do that….also has there been something that is provoking him to target you? did you give him it back maybe once or he fancies you or something? either way you can either totally ignore him and detach from what he says and he will get bored and probably leave you alone or you can play him at his own game and kick his azz or upset him in someway but i dont recommend that its a rare chance it would work and could backfire he could get worse its risky or you could get some1 older to warn him after school but again risky and not worth it goodluck <3
I had the same problem when I was your age. It lasted 5 years, when I was 14-19. For me, we had moved, I was in a new school, and it was a group of boys, not just one. I didn’t tell anyone and was in so much pain. It has affected my life for over the next forty years. I’m old now and know how much it changed me. It affected my self-esteem and the choices I made in life.
Please do something. Tell your parents, even if they can’t do anything or you feel they will make it worse. That may be extremely hard for you to do, but parents need to know. You will have a relationship with them much longer then you will with that bully.
If school officials refuse to do anything, insist on changing classes or change schools. I know that may seem drastic, but I know what may happen if you don’t do anything.
Remember, you are young and you have your whole life ahead of you. What is important now is for you to focus on your studies and figure out what you want to be when you are an adult, not have to worry about what that bully is going to do to you the next time you see him. I know that’s easy to say and hard to do when you feel threatened on a continual basis, but it is the truth.
I really wish you the best.