Can I just say, I am so fucking tired of people telling me “if you’re depressed then change it”.
THANK YOU!
That is such a revelation! I’m better now! I had no idea that I was perpetuating my own misery for 26 years of life!
People think they’re helping when all they’re doing is making things worse. I don’t complain at the time because really, I’m thankful for anyone even wanting to help or have a minute amount of care for my well-being but inside I’m screaming.
I know I’m not alone. I know at least one of you out there can identify with how frustrating it is when people thoroughly don’t understand.
Mental illness is not a choice. Its something you live with and, at best, manage daily.
People should be more careful with their words.
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Yes I can relate. And yeah life would be better if people were more careful with their words. Not likely to ever happen though :/
“I know how you feel” is another one that galls me to the hilt. Your feelings are your feelings. I can empathize with you because I have had the same experience but we won’t both feel the exact same way, even if we share the same emotion. My threshold for tolerating pain is different from yours. It’s all relative to the individual’s point of reference. If someone isn’t giving you the space to have your feelings, your OWN feelings without trying to “talk” you into running around the feelings instead of supporting you as you go through the feelings then they should go away and work on their own control issues.
-peace
Hey, I just made a similar comment to another poster. Wavelengths!
If “they” can’t be careful with their words, we should perhaps consider adopting an earplugs-for-sanity campaign?
In fact, I shall buy a hot pink pair for myself tomorrow.
Make that purple. Purple is more “me.”
@nozmoking I completely agree with what you just said. No one will ever truly identify with what someone else feels or is going through. We can try to relate and understand but that’s about it. And you’re right, people should try and fix their own issues without commanding mine.
@drahonfly_whisperer
Can I have a red pair? 😀
LOL, ritual! You may…though I must insist no one else choose purple, because MY need for purple supersedes anyone else’s need for purple (sorry — part of a difference in the perception of “should” I am engaging in here on SP tonight)!
My guess is that most depression is related to the problems in one’s life. If it’s a case of mental illness then nothing but drugs or death will cure it.
So if your life is otherwise perfect, no problem with income, dating, etc, but you’re still depressed then there’s nothing anyone can say to help you so it’s probably something you’ll have to live with.
But if it’s the case where your life made you depressed because it sucks, then it makes sense for people to recommend that you change it. Whenever I’d experienced depression and believe me, I’ve been there wanting to kill myself…I only got over it when I changed my life in some way. So it just depends what kind of depression you’re going through.
I can relate. People can be dumb it’s scary.
@secondlife I understand your point. For me I believe it is a combination of the two. I have the makings for a decent life but I am still displeased by several aspects of it. I think the self hatred is one of the hardest things..that I know is a mentality flaw but it’s incredibly hard to change.
My entire life I have used food as emotional comfort. Now I am fat and despise my image and despise the weakness it’s taken to get to this point. Strength of will is what I need to remedy this issue but I lose the strength and fall back into bad habits.
I’m aware that weight and physical appearance shouldn’t matter, but to me it really really does.