probably gonna sound stupid or whiney or that i should mind my own business but this place is for me to get my emotions out right. so hats what im going to do.this isn’t aimed at anyone person in particular. im just torn up about a post on here
i felt better this last so many days i thought what i have been saying was true. but was it. i mean how come he had to wait nearly about hour for a reply, no one even tried, i replied too late what if i could of helped what if he’s dead.not a single person. in a community where support seems to be all around a man on the edge..who could be dead now…didn’t get a single message before mine.but a post about a party? that got comments almost instantly.
before now i didn’t really have any doubts about the people on this site and im sorry if this upsets some people. but a person, a father posted saying he was going to kill himself…and no one said a thing, if only id been online before. maybe i could of helped somehow. i don’t know why this has affected me so badly. maybe its proof that idk the human race can be so careless.i too am guilty of this but he was/ is someones father, husband. and no one said a thing.
he could be dead.
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I’m gonna go out on a limb and assume you’re talking about my post. Again, it’s dedicated to bringing light to some peoples day, not just some stupid teenager babble, but I digress.
Not every post gets answered. Personally, when I log on, I read through the majority of posts. No, I don’t read through all of them, but I do try. And even those that I do read through, I don’t always comment on. Sometimes I don’t feel I have anything meaningful to say on the matter at hand, but if I feel it’s desperate enough, i’ll say i’ve read it and that i’m willing to talk.
I’m not saying it’s right that it went unread, but there’s isn’t the only post to have that happen. For the 2+ years i’ve been here, multiple posts like the one you mentioned go by, not a peep from others. That’s not to say nobody cares, it’s just a matter of circumstance. Maybe they posted when the site wasn’t active, or a multitude of other possibilities.
Again, you aren’t wrong. I applaud you for your caring, but like I said, not every post is seen.
I read that post. I felt sad and I thought what could i say that would help? And I came up with…nothing.I simply had nothing I felt that could make that man feel better.
When I saw the party post I smiled. I thought ahh a bit of human contact on this sad, lonely night sounds wonderful so I answered it.
I think most of us come here to be around people that might understand what we are going through. But having said that you can’t expect us to feel responsible for every single post. If I spent too much time on all these posts I’d be crying all the time. I do enough of that already so tonight its party time instead.
i understand people need relief from thsle misery that follows them around through light hearted drinking or whatever else you like, im not bashing that. in fact i applaud the effort to lighten someone’s day.
but a simple hey man i hope your still here and that your doing okay even if everything seems shit right now. i hope you get to see tomorrow and your son and your wife again. something as simple as that could make a person feel a bunch more positive. it doesn’t always work and sometimes you can’t always say the right things. but there wasn’t even a solitary hope your okay.
i understand not everyone can get a reply and you can often feel helpless but this man be he alive or dead now was literally telling us he was going to hang himself and pretty quickly too.that’s desperate enough to warrent a ‘hope your okay’ surely?
i dont know im having a tough time lately and i think with all the other stuff thats in my head that it was like the straw that broke the camels back so to speak. i didn’t mean to upset anyone. and if i did im sorry.i just needed to let it out before i did something i would of regretted
again im sorry if i upset anyone
You’re right I could have said those things. I will try to remember that next time I read a post like his. And I’m not upset at you 🙂 You sound very kind and caring. And because of this post I will try to do better in the future.
im glad i didn’t upset you. you seem like a good person, most of the people on this site are good too , but it surprising sometimes how much of a difference an i hope your okay can make to someones day.
again im sorry if i upset anyone, here’s to hoping that man is okay. along with anyone else whose felt like he did tonight or anynight.
Your concern is admirable. And I do understand where you’re coming from. I, personally, hadn’t logged on until I created the party post. That’s no excuse, but like Whisper and I have said, every now and then, we need a break from the sadness. For some, SP is all they have.
Again, i’m not angered by your post. And again, I admire your thoughtfulness, just trying to add to the other side of the equation.
thankyou for the kind words, i truly support what your doing. your right sometimes this is all people have, and im glad you can make it a happier place for them too.
like i said ive just been a bit all over the place as of late and the idea of what he was feeling when he wrote that, then nobody replied, well lets just saying got a bit emotional.
im glad youre able to bring that little hit of friendship and spark through the party project you got going on. cruelly commendable.
I would like to say that sadly not every post gets the attention that it may need or deserves.
However, for me personally, that was not the case.
I posted what was simply a rough draft to my suicide note back in early January I belive. I don’t fully remember when I joined and posted. It got immediate attention. I really did not expect that. People began to comment and quickly. I was suprised. People like The Koji, OnlyLOVEisReal, Shephard, creeper tales, and many others. I shouldn’t have named any cause I know I’m leaving others out and it’s not intentional. But they all responded and everyone was supportive one way or another, some from a neutral stance and others more actively attempting to persuade me otherwise. In less than an hour I had over 40 comments though. They plead their cases and I plead mine. one person in particular asked that I give it some time at least. I siad was in no rush and would certainly spend some time reevaluating everything. A month and then some passed. And Febuary 26 rolled around. I will never forget that day. I was up all the night before it. It just simply seemed the right time. I was at peace about it. Anxiously wanting it. I deleted everything, emails all prior posts. All apps and photos on my phone and iPad, basically reset them to factory, threw everything away all important papers and documents, cleared everything out. I made a new post revealing myself to those I had come to know while on here. I was going to delete that post a few hours later as well to be replaced by the final suicide note post. I printed copies of it as well and hade them enveloped for certain people and one to be left beside me in the bathroom. I didn’t delete it though and posted my note and cleared my phones memeory again…..I didn’t follow through. Ended up at the hospital. Stayed there for weeks. Once o got out, I came back here. Not immediately, but then I saw all the comments on my posts. I don’t know how quickly they responded, I dunno you can check that yourself of you want, but they were there. They even kept up with the individual comments. Cause I emailed a link to the post to the ppl that were to receive the paper copies incase for some reason they didn’t. And when they could not locate me, they jumped on here and began commenting under the post themselves asking others what had happened or what they knew. This community was there to respond to them for me as well as best they could.
Yes, it’s going to happen, posts will unfortunately be overlooked, but I would say the majority do not. Mine were not. They were addressed. Appropriately in my opinion as well. Found many interesting views and perspectives from some pretty intelegant people.
I’m am sorry the community disappointed you. But it really hasn’t done the same for me really.
I doubt this is any consolation, but I have found the post you are speaking of. I would say this guy is ok. It’s title is about getting good at tying a noose. He guilt and shame and remorse and depression all sound legit, though I feel it is more of an exhaustive post as a part of release of feelings rather than a serious thing. Reason I say this……well I am good at tying nooses. Have been from a very young age. I just liked tying em for no real reason. Anyways, it’s not easily tied out of an extension cord. And it’s nearly ineffective when tied out of an extension cord. Cause the rubber coating binds and holds against each other causing problems. I speak from experience. You can hang yourself with an extension cord but not hardly with a noose tied in it. It’s just an inaccuracy that indicates to me that he is expressing a bit more by feelings than actual happenings. Also if he was getting good at tying a noose, he would have rope and not need to be looking for a long enough extension cord. Using an extension cord, it’s not going to tighten as well as it should meaning…..it’s going to suck, but it would most likely take an excess of 20mins as he is slowly strangled to death. Unconscious after extremely uncomfortable few mins and mins. Many people can’t handle this part and get out themselves at this point. If he were able to keep from aborting or was truly stuck that way whether he wanted to be or not, high risk of permant damage begins after several mins past the he went unconscious. And death at least 20+ mins from the initial drop point. He mentioned calling the police just before tipping a stool. Well…..bad idea…..he will most likely be unconscious once they arrive, certainly be approaching permanent damage stage if not into it, but not likely to be dead. Police don’t take their sweet time to respond to a suicide threat. Point is, if you don’t take his post literally and bank on the inaccuracies in it, he doesn’t attempt and lives and all is well. If you take his post literally and its all legit, well his chances of living are still extremely high. Whether or not he permanently hurts himself in the process is the real question. And that’s just breaking his post down.
I think he will be ok and see another day. I’m truly sorry that you or no one else responded as quick as you would have liked though.