Not having a funeral when i die, people didnt want to make the effort to see me in life so it would be the greatest of insults for them to see me in death, it’s too late then, it’s not their fault it’s just the way it is…
I will be cremated and have my ashes discarded with only my immediate family present it doesnt matter where that takes place as it makes no difference..
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Even the most hated person seems like a hero after death, pretty pathetic.
Isnt it, it’s as if they need it for themselves…. sad but true
It is because they do not understand. They have blinders on. Blinders because of who they are and what life has handed them.
My father declared he was dead to us 25+ years ago. I was devastated (obviously). After, he did get in touch with us, oblivious to what he’d done. I could not talk to him.
Then last year he was found almost dead in the snow. He had dementia. I talked to him two or three times in the last three months.
Tuesday he died. And I thought what was it that I had needed from him (little but…). I needed to ask him why he was so angry. I didn’t think of what he was thinking/ feeling.
I am just saying the uncaring of your circle of people may be a situation they don’t see beyond their own noses. And it hurts you. I am sorry you are hurt. I hurt for more years than I can say.
Take care of YOU. Don’t kill you when it is the group of people that are hurting you by inattentiveness. Find you and find those who want to be with you. I am doing that now.
You can too if you try.
Like everyone else on here i guess we are already trying and hopefully its just a matter of time before the viscous cycle breaks one way or another, but i know your right…