Not sure if anyone has kept up with any of my posts. But back in October a very close relative I live with almost died, she stopped breathing. I had to perform CPR to try and keep her with me till paramedics arrived. She had a very slow and painful recovery and was released from the hospital a few weeks after. I made sure she took all necessary medications and constantly checked on her and made sure she was eating well. I took her out every sunday since then to have brunch at different places that she hasn’t been to. Because I figure some type of quality time and something like this is all I can afford to do for her. I wish that I could buy her a nice house and nice medical equipment so that she can be in a cleaner more stable environment. I wish that I could take her to travel parts of the world and enjoy what is left of her life. But for now I settle for taking her out to brunch every sunday and driving around the town. Well this past sunday she had a very severe allergic reaction to a medication and her body burned from the inside out. She had blisters that formed and ruptured and her skin peeled off exposing raw flesh. She was diagnosed with a very rare condition and is hospitalized again. I have missed so much school and am behind in class work like no ones business. I have a total of 10 assignments and final exams I need to complete. I can’t afford to fail I literally can’t I spent $5,000 on classes this semester that I am still paying off. My GPA needs to be increased by 0.046 otherwise I will end up behind an entire semester. I know this is probably selfish to say but I missed two weeks of school because of all these emergencies and now I’m struggling. And all the while this is going on I’m sitting here wondering if there truly is a god and if there is how can he be so cruel to my relative. All shes ever done is help others and never asked for anything in return and even in the darkest times she kept her faith. Yet she suffers the most in this world and no matter how bad I wish I could take all her pain away I can’t. And my birthday is tomorrow and it will just be so damn gloomy.
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First of all, I know that your birthday won’t be a happy day this year, but I hope your next can be a happier occasion.
You don’t seem selfish at all, from what I read you seem like such a genuinely caring young woman. I hope the person you mentioned in your post can recover fully from what happened to her, or at least feel a better enough so that you two can see the world together someday. Don’t give up.
I don’t really understand how the academic grading works in the US, so I can’t say much about it, but I understand the student life (sigh)… With that said, I wish you the best of luck.
Have you talked to your advisors about getting an extension?
Same as tristeza above, i’ll refrain from saying happy birthday, but i do hope that at least your day brings something good your way (in whatever form possible). I also think you’re not being selfish, and i’m pretty sure that if your relative is anything like what you describe, she’ll understand and tell you herself that you have to focus a bit more on your studies.
I don’t know your living conditions but, is there anyone who can help you a bit with the caring duties? i mean, i do know how student payments work (i was on state loans with my previous career… huge mistake) so you don’t really want to fall behind. Exhaust all options that you can, and again, you’re not being selfish, and there’s just so much that one can do on her/his own. I do wish you luck and i hope that you can find a way of balancing both your relative’s care and studies.
(and… sorry, i can’t avoid this, for what it’s worth, happy birthday).