I know I’m supposed to forgive, or else I won’t be forgiven. I know I’m supposed to pray for those who hurt me, but it’s not always easy. I’m having flashbacks of things my parents said to my brother and I
- No one will ever want you
- When you move out, don’t come back
- You’re trash
- You’ll never be anything
- You’re a motherfucking piece of shit, you know that?
And did
- locking him in a closet
- making him sit outside for hours as they kept the door locked
- “Spanking” us until they saw blood
And more. I don’t want this to affect the rest of life, I want to forget, but I can’t . I guess I’m just freaking out because the semester is over and I’ll have to go home for a few weeks 🙁
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We are all motherfucking pieces of shit. Don’t worry, God dosen’t exist. Christianity ruined my life.
I wouldn’t blame you for not wanting to forgive them.
Forgetting these sort of horrible things isn’t easy either.
What they did would never be considered right, and it’s not a proper way to treat your own children.
If you’re still so worried about the ‘forgive or won’t be forgiven’ thing, my personal opinion is this;
Forgive them, but don’t forget it.
They treated you badly and if you feel like you can you should forgive them, but you shouldn’t forget what they have done.
If you’re forced to stay home with them, just try and keep distance from them when you can, and go through it as smoothly as possible so you can put it behind you easily.
I agree with ^ @duzoo Whether you believe in A religion or not the only way to get past any bad experience with someone would be to forgive them but never forget! I grew up with a mom just like that and my father in another country.. Men my mom brought around would blame me for there fights as if I was “the bad luck charm” when in reality I was just the only child which made me always there and made me the cock blocker I guess. . I too would be locked out my house.. For hours with no siblings tho no friends we had moved a lot so my town where I’d play outside alone locked out was always new to me.. while my mom would fuck her boyfriends I’d be stuck scared alone outside.. I too grew up being told I was basically not shit either and by the “men” my mom had around that I wouldn’t ever be good enough for another man, “no one will ever want u that’s why ur dad left u”.I dealt with this stuff all alone and currently deal with stuff on my own, at least you have your brother.. Not that it’s good he went through this with u but at least u both can have each others backs! Pray about your parents, and try to forgive them even tho it’s hard, that’s what I have tried to do, you can’t change them but u can change who u are and how u let things in ur life play out remember that. Stay strong you can do this!
These sins are not forgivable but you should try to get your mind on other things whenever you get these flashbacks as they will give you a bad mood.
Don’t call them sins as since the whole concept of sin in Christianity is a total bullshit!
What he should do is question why is he a Christian and why does he believe in god.Dropping Christianity out of the picture it would be much easier for him.
Yeah you are right
I’m not dropping Christianity. It’s all I have left, and it’s gotten me through some tough stuff.
I did not know that the word sin is used in religious context. I used to thought that sin is a synonymous of offence.
People say all sorts of things in anger. I suspect that you come from a religious family and it’s ironic how most religious communities speak and act in a way that contradicts the doctrine fundamental to their religion. I’m an atheist but even I contradict myself.
Although I don’t believe that there is a God and for that and other reasons am prevented from or have no desire to follow organised religion I accept that it does provide people with hope. Hope prevents suicide.
If you believe in Christianity I’m sure you will find better guidance from other Christians on the issues you have raised. Forgiveness is not restricted to Christians because we are all capable of forgiving somebody when we have been mistreated. You should not view forgiveness as a Christian principle but as a person draw a line under past events in a way that enables you to move forward. Rather than forgive, not being resentful would amount to the same in these circumstances.
You are not a piece of shit. I would seriously give u a hug right now. I’m having issues with my family right now as well since i’m home for the summer. Personally if i was you try finding somewhere else to go too for the summer. If you have some spare cash maybe take a summer class and stay at the dormitory if possible. you wont be able to get away for the whole summer but at least you would be able too for a lil bit. If you want someone to talk too. I’m here for ya.