It helps me when I help other people. I used to be heavily depressed, but I think I’ve gotten better, and it’s thank to the people who were on this website that I’m still alive… I want to help other people, who are in the place that I have been before.
Hello, I have to say that this is the first time I have ever been to this site before and your post really stood out to me. It may have to do with the situation that you spoke of that has brought you to this point in your life, but I cannot say for sure. I want you to know that I think I understand where you are coming from. My ex husband did not cheat on me, but he was very abusive and very manipulative. He was able to convince some very influential people that I was crazy and they gave him our 2 year old son. I had three other children when I married him and since he managed to convince the right people I also lost them. My world was over. My children were my life. I am a survivor of a very close loved one who committed suicide many years before and always thought that it was a selfish act until I got to that point myself. I cannot honestly tell you how I made it to where I am today, but I do know that when I was in the darkest place of my life I would always try to tell myself that if I could only make it just 1 more hour or one more day. Eventually that hour and that day has become 10 years. I will not lie and say that I have never thought of suicide again because I have and the last time was fairly recent. I know I do not know you at all, but I believe that you seem to be a fairly strong person, at least strong enough to get on this site and tell your story. Maybe you did it in hopes of finding help or maybe you did it just to tell your story either way, in my opinion, you can go into your bedroom or bathroom and look in the mirror and tell yourself I am a strong person and I will make it. I may not know you but I believe in you. If you wish to talk more or just want someone to hear you let me know and I will give you my e-mail and from there my phone #. Be strong I know it is hard, but you never know what tomorrow has in store for you.
Slu, you need to look at your childhood…that’s the key. If you didn’t get your needs met, it makes for a dysfunctional approach to life which is not your fault. It’s your parents job to fortify you with love and nurturing care so it’s embedded in your being without you having to look for it outside yourself…the way many of us have and do. Get your hands on any John Bradshaw videos that talk about family systems theory. That’s the root for most if not all our issues….simply being validated and loved when it’s most important. The first person you have to ask for love from is YOU. Give it a go. Take care.
@kasey11, as well intentioned as your post is, the reality is that you can really only help yourself. When you do that, you are better able to help others. My intention is to be in a place where I can be of service to others but I’ve seen so many people post the same well intentioned statement as you did, only to find they were not well enough equipped to handle the myriad of circumstances people find themselves in. I trust that if the opportunity presents itself, I choose to help. Careful not to put yourself out there as someone who’s going to save people….beautiful intention just be real with everything….Cheers!
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Why do you care and want to help?
It helps me when I help other people. I used to be heavily depressed, but I think I’ve gotten better, and it’s thank to the people who were on this website that I’m still alive… I want to help other people, who are in the place that I have been before.
Hello, I have to say that this is the first time I have ever been to this site before and your post really stood out to me. It may have to do with the situation that you spoke of that has brought you to this point in your life, but I cannot say for sure. I want you to know that I think I understand where you are coming from. My ex husband did not cheat on me, but he was very abusive and very manipulative. He was able to convince some very influential people that I was crazy and they gave him our 2 year old son. I had three other children when I married him and since he managed to convince the right people I also lost them. My world was over. My children were my life. I am a survivor of a very close loved one who committed suicide many years before and always thought that it was a selfish act until I got to that point myself. I cannot honestly tell you how I made it to where I am today, but I do know that when I was in the darkest place of my life I would always try to tell myself that if I could only make it just 1 more hour or one more day. Eventually that hour and that day has become 10 years. I will not lie and say that I have never thought of suicide again because I have and the last time was fairly recent. I know I do not know you at all, but I believe that you seem to be a fairly strong person, at least strong enough to get on this site and tell your story. Maybe you did it in hopes of finding help or maybe you did it just to tell your story either way, in my opinion, you can go into your bedroom or bathroom and look in the mirror and tell yourself I am a strong person and I will make it. I may not know you but I believe in you. If you wish to talk more or just want someone to hear you let me know and I will give you my e-mail and from there my phone #. Be strong I know it is hard, but you never know what tomorrow has in store for you.
I have to apologize for the previous post. I guess I hit the wrong button and skipped over the post I was meaning to leave it for.
I’ve been alone as far back as I can remember. All I want is to be loved. Will you love me?
Then how can you help me.
Yh…im sufferin from a broken heart…all i do is cry n cut…n be depressed…n i feel alone n all….add me on aim if ya wanna talk n help me n all…
Aim: aijinmisaki
Slu, you need to look at your childhood…that’s the key. If you didn’t get your needs met, it makes for a dysfunctional approach to life which is not your fault. It’s your parents job to fortify you with love and nurturing care so it’s embedded in your being without you having to look for it outside yourself…the way many of us have and do. Get your hands on any John Bradshaw videos that talk about family systems theory. That’s the root for most if not all our issues….simply being validated and loved when it’s most important. The first person you have to ask for love from is YOU. Give it a go. Take care.
@kasey11, as well intentioned as your post is, the reality is that you can really only help yourself. When you do that, you are better able to help others. My intention is to be in a place where I can be of service to others but I’ve seen so many people post the same well intentioned statement as you did, only to find they were not well enough equipped to handle the myriad of circumstances people find themselves in. I trust that if the opportunity presents itself, I choose to help. Careful not to put yourself out there as someone who’s going to save people….beautiful intention just be real with everything….Cheers!