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Anyone elseknow what it’s like?

by OneLastSunset

I just posted a few hours ago so..sorry for the double post but…I want to know if anyone has been through what I have..i lost my wife and 1 year old daughter about 5 months ago and I wanna talk to someone who has been through something similar. It’s funny…I read all these other posts and..I dont mean to make their problems seem less but…they all seem so trival, you want to kill yourself because you wanna get away from “soceity”, cause you don’t have an xbox? So many of these posts are just such small things. You lose your fucking daughter..and wife..then you can say something. Anyways that got off track. I have facebook and skype if anyone has been through something similar…it’s the most unbearable pain imaginable.


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mwtele 12/9/2011 - 12:17 am

my wife left me almost a year ago. recently she has been around alot in my life. she made me realize that someday i will be happy again. i don’t know if you lost your wife and daughter because of death or they just left. but either way. they are gone. it sucks, i know. i know my wife will never be back in my life…not the way i want. i hope you can find something to keep you hanging on. i don’t know what it is…but there must be that one thing, even how small it might be.

OneLastSunset 12/9/2011 - 12:31 am

No…they are gone forever…

FrigginMartin 12/9/2011 - 1:40 am

Nearly a year ago my life ended. I had some amazing friends and along with them an exciting life.

They’re dead now and I might as well be… As hard as I’ve found it, I can not imagine how much worse It could be to lose a wife and child…

FrigginMartin 12/9/2011 - 2:01 am

If you wanna talk, My facebook name is the same as my user name here…

JBCubbs 12/9/2011 - 2:15 am

i’m not putting you down. but everyone deals with thing differently. what might seem small to you, could be horrible for someone else. just keep that in mind. i can’t imagine what ur going through feels. and i’m sorry that you have to experience it at all…

OneLastSunset 12/9/2011 - 2:21 am

Yea..I know..i didn’t mean to put anyone down..it’s just after losing my only daughter and wife…those things seem so trival..idk. And yes FrigginMartin..it’s something I wouldn’t even wish on Hitler…it’s…truley unbearable and no words can describe the pain.

Jigoku Shoujo 12/9/2011 - 2:56 am

I offer my sincere condolences to you sir. The pain of losing a child is what I fear which prevents me from ever becoming a mother. Including the pain I might cause to my child if my suicidal tendencies never cease. Your daughter must’ve been very beautiful. Oh how I wish for a daughter myself but I mustn’t risk it..

OneLastSunset 12/9/2011 - 3:51 am

She was the most beautiful girl ever…so much hair…golden brown skin..so many people said she could be a model baby so it wasn’t just a parents love saying how beautiful she was. EVERYONE saw it…god I need her and my wife back so bad…god i love her so much it makes me sick.

tortured soul0701 12/9/2011 - 8:30 am

I have lost a son, which in turn caused me to lose my wife and other children. I think about them all, all day every day. Nothing can ever fill the void now! If you want to chat add me on facebook gareth htid davies

Procel 12/9/2011 - 9:02 am

@onelastsunset Man what u are is an inspiration, I see the shit ur going through and the fact u lasted this long… ur nothing short of a hero

U.N. Owen 12/9/2011 - 9:21 am

Lost my son earlier this year.
Never wanted kids.
Did not find out he existed until he was 4.
My ex wife cheated so I got the marriage annulled and put her out.
Did not know at the time she was pregnant.

Alsmost 5 years later I get a subpoena from court for possible paternity.
Having been celibate and single since the annullment I was shocked until I read the name. Seems she had gotten remarried to one of the guys she cheated with and they got divorced and the child was proven not to be his.

So I guess she did the math. And I had not moved anywhere.

Saw them in court and he was the spitting image of me. Still asked for DNA to make sure. She got her garnishment and pretty much went out of her way to prevent him from seeing me. On his birthday I begged for him to be able to come here because his is one day before mine. Every problem stemmed from the fact that I ended our marriage from her infidelity. She was upset because I put her out. Go figure.

So he did not get to come and died in a car accident with one of her friends and her child. Had he came to be with Dad he still may be here.

Thing is I never cared about living. I saw no meaning in life from childhood to now.
Failed at previous attempts due to lack of knowledge.
And the abuses, ostracizing, and other issues along the way did not help.

So when I found out about my son I was determined to kick around at least till his mid adulthood to do all I could for him. Call it giri as the Japanese might say. Duty.

So I do understand part of your pain.

OneLastSunset 12/9/2011 - 6:26 pm

Wow..that’s..quite a story, I’m sorry. It’s a little different but, still tough. Also, Procel…I have no idea what to even say to that, I’m not, at all. Thank you though..

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