Losing someone you love can feel like all the color is going out of the world, and everything is suddenly chilly. It goes away eventually, if you want to let it go.
Do something right now to honor her memory. Plant a tree, donate to a fund that is trying to prevent such deaths. Help someone else who has lost the love of their lives. Even if you decide later you still want to join her, you will have made her presence in this world stand for something good. It wont be a knee-jerk reaction, but truly thought through. And it might help you realize the reason you need to keep going.
You are not alone. She is with you. Her smile is with you, her spirit, and I bet you know what she would say to you right now. This death is hers, this time is hers, not yours. Give it a little time before you decide. Death is always waiting, life is not.
Ive lost a whole lot in my life..try going to work & seeing people die everyday.. ur body becomes numb. You feel alone, I understand. What about having someone you love still be alive & they don’t want you anymore..the pain of that hurts even more..trust me you have a lot to live for. I’m sorry for the pain you are going through but realize that its not you..its not your pain, my pain that we are here for..its just the pain & like every storm in life..there is always a rainbow as a reminder of who we are here for.
December 22 she had a heart attack while at the gym. 5 shocks, continuous CPR, nothing. After 10 days in ICU there was no hope. She passed 1/1/2012.
I’m now alone. Warm loving home is now a cold empty house. Too many chores. Too many thoughts. Everyone who has been thru something similar says the pain never stops, you just learn to endure it.
Well, this is the 2nd wife I’ve buried. I don’t want to endure any more pain.
My best friend’s father killed himself last christmas, this year was hard for him, but his familly is still moving on. Death doesn’t have to mean the world shuts down or life loses it’s colors, the people you surround yourself with can help you.
Im sorry jeff you sound like you are in a world of pain.the same thing happened to a guy i know and he was in the same shape you are now.let your friends in try not to spend too much time alone my thoughts are with you.what has happened to you is my biggest fear my husband is badly disabled alot of guys we know have passed away recently and i fear he will go before me i cant stand the thought hang in there keep chatting with us it takes your mind off the dark thoughts
I feel ur pain, and i empathize with you… It is sad, but there is a light that i see in ur situation! You are still alive today and that is an accolade. Not everyone has the strength to be able to make it to see another day. today is the biggest challenge of our lives! hang in there… Dont isolate yourself! Get as much love into ur atmosphere as u can. thats what saved my life yesterday.. Trust me, i understand ur pain. we all do; thats why we are here. I Love You Brother
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So sorry to hear about your loss, Jeff – would you like to share with us a bit more?
Losing someone you love can feel like all the color is going out of the world, and everything is suddenly chilly. It goes away eventually, if you want to let it go.
Do something right now to honor her memory. Plant a tree, donate to a fund that is trying to prevent such deaths. Help someone else who has lost the love of their lives. Even if you decide later you still want to join her, you will have made her presence in this world stand for something good. It wont be a knee-jerk reaction, but truly thought through. And it might help you realize the reason you need to keep going.
You are not alone. She is with you. Her smile is with you, her spirit, and I bet you know what she would say to you right now. This death is hers, this time is hers, not yours. Give it a little time before you decide. Death is always waiting, life is not.
I’m sorry. 🙁
Ive lost a whole lot in my life..try going to work & seeing people die everyday.. ur body becomes numb. You feel alone, I understand. What about having someone you love still be alive & they don’t want you anymore..the pain of that hurts even more..trust me you have a lot to live for. I’m sorry for the pain you are going through but realize that its not you..its not your pain, my pain that we are here for..its just the pain & like every storm in life..there is always a rainbow as a reminder of who we are here for.
December 22 she had a heart attack while at the gym. 5 shocks, continuous CPR, nothing. After 10 days in ICU there was no hope. She passed 1/1/2012.
I’m now alone. Warm loving home is now a cold empty house. Too many chores. Too many thoughts. Everyone who has been thru something similar says the pain never stops, you just learn to endure it.
Well, this is the 2nd wife I’ve buried. I don’t want to endure any more pain.
I am so sorry Jeff… I am so sorry… I shed a tear.. I cannot image how that must be like….
My best friend’s father killed himself last christmas, this year was hard for him, but his familly is still moving on. Death doesn’t have to mean the world shuts down or life loses it’s colors, the people you surround yourself with can help you.
Im sorry jeff you sound like you are in a world of pain.the same thing happened to a guy i know and he was in the same shape you are now.let your friends in try not to spend too much time alone my thoughts are with you.what has happened to you is my biggest fear my husband is badly disabled alot of guys we know have passed away recently and i fear he will go before me i cant stand the thought hang in there keep chatting with us it takes your mind off the dark thoughts
I feel ur pain, and i empathize with you… It is sad, but there is a light that i see in ur situation! You are still alive today and that is an accolade. Not everyone has the strength to be able to make it to see another day. today is the biggest challenge of our lives! hang in there… Dont isolate yourself! Get as much love into ur atmosphere as u can. thats what saved my life yesterday.. Trust me, i understand ur pain. we all do; thats why we are here. I Love You Brother