I am no expert on suicide.Â I found this site tonight because of an article I read, that caused me to do a google search on exit bags to find out more, as I did not even know they existed.Â Â I am not a person even contemplating suicide.
After reading some stories here on this site, which honestly horrified me.Â I felt the need to try to post something that may help some people in some way.
I am not against suicide in any way.Â After watching both my parents die from lung cancer and how horrible it was, I kinda wish they had chosen to do so, I hated to watch them suffer so badly.
Many of the stories I read here though are people who are depressed, and not thinking clearly. Â Stories similar to everyone’s life. Â Not having enough money, or lot’s of drama with family and friends, etc. IE: problems that change with the seasons.
I don’t pretend to know who should or should not kill them self.Â I just ask those who do, to ask themselves a few questions first.
1.Â Is my problem or reason for wanting to die permanent and forever?Â Could I make new friends, escape from my miserable situation, or do I have a horrible disease that’s going to hurt a lot if I let it run it’s course, etc.
2.Â Do I have people that depend on me who I love? (IE: Children who need me)
3. Do I give a shit about the people that give a shit about me?Â The people who will be crushed by this?
Suicide truly is the easy way out, be it if you you dislike life, or want to avoid a horrible painful death.
It’s not a choice to be taken lightly because a girlfriend/boyfriend left, or maybe cheated on you.Â Nor a choice because you fucked up big and pissed off everyone you know and they all hate you now.Â Not a good option if you are broke and struggling to get by.Â Â All of these reasons for suicide can be fixed by life changes.
In the end it’s up to you.Â I just hope you don’t do it if there is even the slimmest chance you will one day live a life that is happy for you.
hello… I am honestly SO SO SO sorry about your parents… Those are really good questions to ask before anyone kills themselves and they make a lot of sense…
1. Yes. I have ptsd and have had several years of my life stolen from living in fear and living with physical and mental debilitations.
2. No, at least not that I know of. I have no friends, no social life and have lived in isolation for the past several years.
You haven’t tried to kill yourself before if you think suicide is the easy way out. It was actually really difficult for me to act against my survival instincts, which is one of the reasons I’m still alive right now.
Suicide is a complex psychological and physiological response to unrelenting physical and emotional pain.
It may not follow logical thought patterns.
I wrote a post on here recently detailing suicidal ideation.
It is called;
By easy way out, I mean easy way to avoid the pain one is feeling. Once completed by definition it all goes away. I do not mean that the act of suicide is easy to do.
When I was a teenager I “tried” to kill myself. I put the word tried in quotes because in reality for me it was a cry for help, I did not actualy try hard at it.
I am willing to be your friend. I am willing to talk to you. My phone number is 540-986-6369. Please don’t call late at night as my kids are asleep. I am in VA and on eastern time. My email is firstname.lastname@example.org
Also, I don’t have ptsd, but I do suffer from extreme anxiety and panic attacks – I know first hand how debilitating fear can be and eat xanax like candy.
j3ff – one of the great things about this site is that while many people come here with a resolve to end their life … the vast majority leave here because the found strength through camaraderie and commonality with others … additionally some the folks that have written some of the mos horrific stories have been incredibly helpful to the others that come here … sure … some might actually do it and a few might succeed. but without this site and probably other similar communities, the attempt and success rates would be much higher … there are some real heroic people here.
just a dawg
Thanks for the checklist bro. Iâ€™m very responsible and I will take the upmost care to ensure that my death will be the least of my familyâ€™s problems.
@Dawg.. well said
Dawg – I don’t pretend to know what the community here is like – I just freaked out by seemingly resolvable issues in a lot of the stories I read. I felt the need to post something.
I found this site after reading an article about a lady who is everyone’s grandmothers age making bags to kill themselves. Then I read stories of people who did not seem that different from me wanting to die. Then I thought back to how I felt when I went through those phases of life, and wanted to share that life gets better for most on here. Not all, some who are here should consider suicide. I myself would in thier state. But most are just life sucks at the moment, I need to check out.
from my pov life is likely to get better if you have a few people that genuinely support you, a considerable amount of patience and the will & determination to experience less dark days
if you don’t have at least 2 of these, I honestly don’t see the point in being here